These carefully handpicked self-acceptance quotes highlight a truth interwoven in each experience: Healing is a circle. If there’s self-sabotage, there’s space for compassion. The honest assessment of our flaws ushers in a new stage of growth. Feeling incomplete is just the place we need to be in order to unlearn some fragmented perception, to remember our innate wholeness. We walk around the world, dropping dead leaves and birthing more truthful truths, healing through it all.
“Transformation begins with the radical acceptance of what is.” — Danielle LaPorte
The journey of being a human is less about evolving into a different person, and more about loving who you (truly) are right now. This isn’t even about falling in love with your behavior—you can certainly want to improve—because self-acceptance is the journey back to who you’ve always truly been at your core, before personality had anything to do with your truth.
There’s an aspect of you that doesn’t change with every shifting wind, and that’s the “part” that speaks most truly of who you are. When you feel at peace, you’re closer to home. When you feel joyful, full of life, grateful, and inspired, you’re connected.
Where self-acceptance is involved, there seems to be a larger message playing in the background: Embrace the paradox of being alive, of being you in your wholeness, with all your pieces.
Life contains enough space for everything to exist all at once, hence the great mystery of existence. Think about this: Acceptance of what is, as it is, becomes the catalyst for sustainable change. We look at ourselves as we are now, and if we accept what we find there, with a compassionate gaze, we experience the changes we’ve longed for. We stop waiting for validation from others, and then approval comes.
It’s when we soften our resistance to what we don’t want that we can allow what we do want to come in.
We forgive ourselves, surrendering to the suffering, and the weight lifts. The winds change in response to our sighs of relief; surrender is met with mercy, and we are strengthened by it.
So often, we need to give up the images we’ve held on to for so long if we want to feel the lightness of something new, maybe better than we’ve imagined. Life is constantly encouraging us to learn, unlearn, catch, release, choose, soften, accept, change—and it all is part of the worthwhile path back to your whole self.
I’ve selected these self-acceptance quotes to help us embrace the contrasts between who we are now and who we can be; to help us live in the “in-between” with more ease, compassion and trust; and to remember that we’re whole even while we’re healing.
I’d also like to extend an invitation to a free 10-day online event hosted by Sounds True, The Self-Acceptance Summit: How to Overcome Self-Judgment and Live a Life of Bravery, Compassion, and Authenticity. The event begins September 11th, and features 31 leading experts in the field of self-acceptance and self-compassion. I’m so excited for this to begin.
Now is always the right time to renew your vows of love that you keep with yourself.
20 Self-Acceptance Quotes, in Case You’ve Forgotten That You’re Already Whole
1. “Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.” — Brené Brown
2. “Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” — Louise Hay
3. “Accepting yourself is about respecting yourself. It’s about honoring yourself right now, here today, in this moment. Not just who you could become somewhere down the line.” — Kris Carr“Allow yourself to transform as many times as you need to be fully happy and free.” — Young Pueblo Click To Tweet
5. “I am not looking to escape my darkness, I am learning to love myself there.” — Rune Lazuli
6. “How can I be substantial if I do not cast a shadow? I must have a dark side also if I am to be whole.” — Carl Jung
7. “When I accept myself, I am freed from the burden of needing you to accept me.” — Steve Maraboli“I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself.” — Rita Mae Brown Click To Tweet
9. “I decided that most subversive, revolutionary thing I could do was to show up for my life and not be ashamed.” — Anne Lamott
10. “Loving ourselves through the process of owning our story is the bravest thing we will ever do.” — Brené Brown
11. “The surest way to lose your self-worth is by trying to find it through the eyes of others.” — Becca Lee“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anyone.” — Maya Angelou Click To Tweet
13. “My mission, should I choose to accept it, is to find peace with exactly who and what I am. To take pride in my thoughts, my appearance, my talents, my flaws, and to stop this incessant worrying that I can’t be loved as I am.” — Anaïs Nin
14. “In order to love who you are, you cannot hate the experiences that shaped you.” — Andrea Dykstra
15. “Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.” — Brené Brown“Remind yourself that you cannot fail at being yourself.” — Wayne Dyer Click To Tweet
17. “You’re here to heal the parts of yourself that believe you should be different than what you are. You’re here to learn how to be wholly you; it’s a messy, holy process.” — Jennifer Williamson
18. “You can’t hate yourself happy. You can’t criticize yourself thin. You can’t shame yourself worthy. Real change begins with self-love and self-care.” — Jessica Ortner
19. “The most you know who you are, and what you want, the less you let things upset you.” — Stephanie Perkins
20. “Instead of trying to mend me, I decided to enjoy me. Instead of trying to solve me, I decided to discover me. It was one of the best decisions of my life.” — S.C. Laurie
Please share your favorite self-acceptance quotes, positive practices that help you feel whole and nourished inside, and any helpful or hopeful stories of redemption and liberation with me in the comments.
Pass along any or all of these self-acceptance quotes to a fellow worthy human being; let them know they’re not walking around the world all alone.
If you create the courage to accept yourself, make sure you let others know they can do the same.