Learning to love your body has its consequences, one being that you’ll amplify the positive power that is you and your impact on the world. Come back to these simple mantras whenever you’ve forgotten your own flawsomeness.
“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.” – Brené Brown
In social scientist Brené Brown’s book, The Gifts of Imperfection, she also states that we cultivate love “when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known…” We cannot enter the world someone other than who we really are and expect to be loved for who we are.
Two weeks ago I shared five body positive mantras to keep the love flowing, because the love we cultivate isn’t meant to be withheld from certain areas of life. “To withhold the smallest gift,” says A Course in Miracles, “is not to know love’s purpose.”
Acceptance cracks the door open so love can walk through.
I hope one of these mantras helps you accept where and what and who you are, so that you can begin the meaningful journey of loving your body just the way it is right here, right now. What’s the sense in waiting to enjoy your life, anyway?
What’s the point of waiting to start living, of needing things to look perfect before you’re allowed to smile? Can your body not be viewed as a vehicle for life to be experienced, rather than merely an object of judgment?
Life is a gift, not a guarantee. I think it’s worth it to love your body, because it’s part of the gift of life on earth.
5 Mantras to Inspire You to Love Your Body (or at Least Be Willing to Try)
1. I am my own brand of beautiful.
We each have our own unique fingerprints, our own path to follow, our own energetic signature to write on the world.
Waiting for physical “perfection” is an ingredient in unhappiness. The concept of perfection changes with each generation, and varies culture to culture. Basing our self-worth on the volatile world around us will naturally create a volatile world within.
Do your best, forgive the rest, accept what you cannot change, and turn your weaknesses into strengths. We’re not problems to be solved, and neither is life. We’re here to experience life, express the life that animates us, and write our energetic signature on the world.
2. My body is a garden.
Nothing in nature blooms all year long, not on the outside anyway. Don’t expect visual perfection of yourself every single day, or ever (what is perfection, anyway, exactly?). Be the gardener of your own soul; the seeds you plant now become the harvest you bring into the world tomorrow.
As an expression of who you are, your body isn’t your whole self, but it’s the part of your self that allows your light to shine in this realm of existence. It’s a symbol of creation, a product of growth, an instrument of the kind of love that only knows expansion–you were created to create.
Release the aesthetics–art is really about how a masterpiece comes into existence, not the final product itself–and embrace all the things your body is capable of growing in this lifetime.
Like a garden, the body flourishes with attention; it loves to be showered with love; when it’s consistently cared for, there’s less opportunity for shady characters to sneak in and uproot what was planted with good intentions.
3. It’s good to be alive.
Pema Chödrön reminds us that this human experience is temporary, and far from ordinary: “It is also helpful to realize that this very body we have, that’s sitting right here right now, with its aches and its pleasures, is exactly what we need to be fully human, fully awake, fully alive.”
There’s some sort of miraculous source of spirit, energy, and aliveness that fuels the physical self, and I think that’s who we really are, where we came from and what we’ll return to. For this brief moment, we have an opportunity to experience life from a unique vantage point, as a human being.
Speak to your higher self, the part that’s infinite and whole already and always; the part that deeply understands that life is a gift to be received. From this grateful place, you can transform any challenge into a blessing.
4. I am a friend, not a bully.
Whatever negative chatter is upsetting your inner peace, recite this in response: “I am more than this. I am a friend, not a bully.” You’re more than the negative name-calling, the labels, the weaknesses, the symptoms, the feelings of brokenness and unworthiness–rise above the temptation of the ego to dampen your inner light.
You’re more than the body itself; your body is here because the universe longs to experience itself through you. If you don’t like what you’ve been given, and you can’t change it, your greatest freedom lies in acceptance. By grounding yourself in a place of “enough,” you can be proactive rather than merely reactive to life’s challenges.
The cruelty we may sometimes dole out to our bodies is not indicative of the state of our body, but the state of our mind. Don’t let your mind bully your body.
5. Happiness is true beauty.
You don’t need to be deemed beautiful by the current standards of judgment, and you certainly don’t need the approval of others to be happy. Our internal world will never be stable if we base our peace on something so volatile as the world around us.
A lot of people have the concept of happiness totally backwards. “If I achieve this,” they think, “I will be happy.” The truth is that this rarely works, and if it does, it’s not a long-term solution; once we have one thing we thought would make us happy, there’s suddenly something else we need.
When you start practicing positive thinking, you’ll naturally begin to manifest positive changes. The moment you decide to be happy, and to give life your full presence, you understand what real success feels like. That undercurrent of joy and peace is what really makes you (and your life) beautiful.
- In what small ways can you love your body a little better today?
- What thoughts, habits, or activities make you feel better about your body?
- Are you willing to trade perfection for appreciation?
Please share your thoughts, favorite body-loving mantras, helpful self-love practices, and any inspiring stories with me in the comments.
Share these mantras with someone whose existence is worthy of celebration.
You are flawsome.
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