In my life, I’ve given up on trying to be perfect, and not because I’ve resigned myself to imperfection, but because I’ve chosen to show up fully and actually live this life. Perfection is limiting; it cuts us off from what we’re capable of doing, giving, receiving, and becoming. To honor what really matters, I decided there are at least 11 ways you don’t need to be perfect, just who you are in your wholeness.
“It took me a long, long time to realize we are not meant to be perfect; we’re meant to be whole.” — Jane Fonda
I don’t think we were born to be perfect shining representations of the light, but to discover first that we have the light in us. That’s a place to begin, by remembering just how much power we hold to alter the way our lives unfold from the inside out; that is the most powerful lesson I’ve learned so far.
We’re powerful and we don’t need to be perfect to own that.
I don’t think we were born into the requirement that we either remain perfect or retain perfection. Life on earth is a wonderful gift, and it can also be an obstacle course. It’s a constant challenge to stay true to oneself—if we’ve ever spent the energy to figure out what that truth is in the first place.
What I do believe is that we were born into a rich field of possibility, not destined for limitation. Perfection is limiting; it requires boxes to be checked and draws lines to be colored in. Possibility is often messy, but liberating and exciting.
My point is that you don’t need to be perfect to live the kind of life you came here to live. You just need to be honest with yourself about what matters to you and then build the courage to create your life from that passionate base.
It can be tough for any of us on the road of recovery, healing, or self-improvement to realize we’re not meant to be perfect, not back then and not sometime in the future. We’re meant to be here, living and learning, expanding and creating, stumbling and struggling, loving and giving.
We are here on purpose and when we live on purpose, the word “perfect” doesn’t seem to matter all that much.
Living with heart is where the growth and gifts come from.
Here are some words of love to let sink in.
Wake-Up Call: You Don’t Need to Be Perfect
1. You don’t need to be perfect to help. You just need to be passionate about why you are helping. When you figure out your “why”—that deep-seated purpose, that burning desire to contribute—then your passion surpasses the limitations of perfection.
2. You don’t need to be perfect to begin. To put your heart-work out there, to show up and be all that you are, and to do what you can do from this place, you really only need to explore yourself with compassion.Giving yourself permission to be a beginner is liberating, a testament to what you know in your heart to be possible and a proclamation of what's worthwhile. The journey of becoming is what's worthwhile. tell a friend
3. You don’t need to be perfect to be excellent. Excellence is what happens when you do your best, over and over again. Through consistency, your “best” will inevitably evolve, but if it is your best every time, it is excellence every step of the way.
4. You don’t need to be perfect to appreciate yourself. Sporting strengths and weaknesses is what being alive is all about. It’s not about being without faults or failure, but how you rise and keep going anyway that leaves a positive impact on the world around you.
5. You don’t need to be perfect to love and be loved. This is something you were born to do, not something that’s reserved for special occasions, or special people.To love and be loved, perfection is not required. Authentic love wouldn't limit itself like that. tweet this
6. You don’t need to be perfect to be worthy of taking a break. Your perfection certainly isn’t required for you to prioritize your healing, to take care of yourself, to slow down and keep things simple, or to try another approach.
7. You don’t need to be perfect to be resilient. There are countless times when I didn’t feel strong enough to handle what came my way, but somehow, I still did, and it definitely wasn’t because I was perfect.
8. You don’t need to be perfect to be spiritual. One of the most profound gifts of a spiritual practice is that it, too, is a practice.Through compassion, we learn that we don't need to be perfect in order to be worthwhile and whole. inspire someone
9. You don’t need to be perfect to be successful. Success is about perception, like most concepts (e.g. perfection, beauty) tend to be, which means you get to define it for yourself. What if you were to base your success on how loving you could be, or on how present and alive you could be?
10. You don’t need to be perfect to feel like life is perfect anyway. Life can be a gift, even when crazy things happen. Life can be a miracle, even when it’s messy and unclear. Life is perfect, no matter what happens, because life is LIFE. It’s incredible that we’re here at all.
11. You don’t need to be perfect to own your light. Flowers typically don’t bloom all year round, especially when you live in a world of changing seasons. Embracing those seasons, whatever the temperature and scenery and rate of growth, is a showcase of how the light isn’t dependent on outward circumstances.
I’d love to know:
Which of these sentiments can you relate to and attest to, and which are you still learning?
Share your thoughts on perfection versus wholeness, how you broke free from the chains of perfection so you could live your life, and any liberating realizations or stories with me in the comments.
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What if your imperfections were the catalysts for a rich and meaningful life?