In the most loving way, there are things I am not sorry for and conscious self-loving decisions I feel compelled to share with you today. Maybe you will find a few things you don’t have to be sorry for too.
How to say no: Sorry, but I’ve signed a contract with the universe to live the way I want to live.
I shared that statement above the other week on social media and complemented it with the following statement:
Leave out the “sorry” bit, now that I think about it.
It got me thinking about how self-care is most nourishing when it turns into an act of self-advocacy, which basically means speaking up for yourself in the name of love.“Where we think we need more self-discipline, we usually need more self-love.” — Tara Mohr, Playing Big tell a friend
I don’t think that saying no is a bad thing when it’s done with love and respect, both for ourselves and for those to whom we are saying no. Of course, there are times when we need to say yes to something that doesn’t necessarily feel good in the moment, but we can even treat those times with respect and make the decision consciously from a place of honor.
The real beauty lies in making our decisions conscious.
If you’re struggling with the unnecessary yeses and craving a deeply-nourishing soul-serving no, ponder those things you don’t need to be sorry for. Here are a few of my own to inspire those conscious decision-making skills that you can build stronger, one no at a time.
Things I Am Not Sorry For
1. I am not sorry for getting 9 hours of sleep.
2. I am not sorry for staying in on a Friday night to take care of my heart.
3. I am not sorry for choosing what’s best for me tonight.
4. I am not sorry for talking about the people who are no longer “here”—I still love them and want to hear their names. I still want to tell and hear their stories. Not sorry, not even a little bit.
5. I am not even sorry for talking about death. I think we need to do that, in healthy ways. It makes me more fully embrace the life I am living while I live it.
6. I am not sorry for exploring my own version of experiencing life.“Saying no is a high form of self-care… Saying no is an act of love.” @ChristyTending tell a friend
7. I am not sorry for navigating and strengthening my creativity in the midst of so much extraordinary talent.
8. I am not sorry for feeding myself the silence my greatest work craves.
9. I am not sorry for not wanting to do what other people think I should do (sometimes that other voice is my inner critic).
10. I am not sorry for changing my mind about what I want and need.
11. I am not sorry for working hard on and for what I love.Self-advocacy is self-care's big sister. speak your truth
12. I am not sorry for being tired enough to rest my soul in solitude.
13. I am not sorry for feeling anything I am feeling in any given moment.
14. I am not sorry for crying. Sometimes my soul needs watering.
15. I am not sorry for ever having loved anyone, even if I don’t feel the same way about them (or myself).
What is something you are not sorry for, or what’s one thing you are ready to separate from the word “sorry”?
Share your “not sorry” thoughts and stories with me in the comments—I’d love to read them!
Remind a friend that they don’t need to be sorry for what nourishes them. Pass along this post with love.
Say no to whatever doesn’t keep you afloat today, in the most loving way possible. And if you need to say yes, do so in the most loving way possible.