I’m not sure that we’re ever ready for a loved one to pass away. Even after all this time, I am still not ready. Yet, these reflections on grieving are radiant with life because to have loved has turned out to mean: to have lived. What greater gift could I, my living soul, have asked for?
The way I experience it, healing is an honor, though perhaps one wrapped in darkness, like a star is.
I have survived something never to be wished on another human being, but still, I am not alone in what I know. However isolating my suffering pretends to be, it’s a shared experience with countless souls.
Nevertheless, there is love.
My personal healing journey has proven itself worthwhile, full of light, heart-opening. Loss has been a painful precursor to a fuller life. Loss has been a struggle only softened by love, and through love alone has it enriched my life.
It’s understandable that death and loss are not talked about because they can trigger painful wounds, yet I believe it necessary for the enrichment of life. We are scared to go back to where we came from, but respecting the mystery makes it more of a teacher than torture.
So, here are some reflections on grieving and the process of healing from the perspective of respect—some poetry, some poetic “guidance” to loving through the darkness, if you would have it, and some thoughts from others. I hope it contributes to your healing.
Reflections on Grieving, and How Love, Still, Means Life
1. Where grief exists, the easy is not easy.
2. I walk this path,
Healing as I go,
Knowing I do not walk alone.
3. Grief makes you replay scenes in your head that never happened, the ones you didn’t get to have.
4. From the root of your suffering, there grows a new capacity for courage.“To avoid the pain of loss would be to avoid the love and life we shared.” — Elisabeth Kubler-Ross shine on love
6. Continue to love: continue to live. Continue to be loved: continue to live.
7. “Grief is part of who I am. It lives in the very bones of me… so does love.” — Unknown
8. “There is no pain so great as the memory of joy in present grief.” — Aeschylus II
9. “The pain now is part of the happiness then. That’s the deal.” — C.S. LewisSharing your suffering with those you trust is not always courage; sometimes, it is about survival. Survival first, then healing. tell a friend
11. I have never lived so much until I understood how much life had given me.
12. The soul is not complete
Without life’s next breath.
13. I don’t think we must be grateful for having a wound like losing someone we love, but, eventually, we can be grateful for the spiritual rooms that we enter because of where our path has led. We can be grateful for the cracking open that happens as a result of having such a deep wound.
14. Through a wider understanding of what love really means, we can understand that our grief is really a telltale sign that love still breathes.
Which of these reflections on grieving speaks to you? Please share yours, and your own, with me in the comments—I’d be honored to read them.
Send some much-needed loving someone’s way; share these musings with a friend, if they spoke to you.
One breath. One at a time. One moment of eternal love in the middle of time. This is how we heal.