What does it mean to choose love over fear? It could mean opting for a healthy snack because you love feeling healthy, rather than because you’re afraid of getting sick. In our relationships and our work, it might mean giving someone your undivided attention even though a lengthy to-do list sits on your desk (read: fear of “not having enough time” to “get it all done” so you can achieve “this” or “that” for reasons X, Y, or Z). These quotes pay homage to the loving decisions we’re capable of making every single day.
“All healing is essentially a release from fear.” — A Course in Miracles
All in all, the decisions we make may remain the same on the surface, but it’s the quality of those decisions, the underlying energy and intention of those decisions, that creates a new reality. It’s why we choose to do what we do that makes the difference between feeling helpless and feeling empowered.
Take your companions, for instance. Choosing to surround yourself with supportive people seems like a great idea on the surface, as it likely is, but it’s the mindset from which you do so that determines how you experience your environment. Do you choose this because you despise your other choices or do you choose particular “partners” because you love to feel connected and understood? The choice may look the same and read the same, but go deeper and you’ll see what I mean when I say the energy behind the decision makes a difference in how you feel.
Have you ever spent time with people because you felt guilty for not spending enough time with them?
When it comes to working, distraction seems to be the nemesis of productivity, but why can’t we just sit in the discomfort of doing the work without succumbing to the need to turn away? We don’t like to be uncomfortable, even though that’s where the breakthroughs happen. That fear of discomfort could be merely an offspring of a larger fear of not producing work that’s good enough, which probably has something to do with an overall fear of not being good enough.
Have you ever eaten a side of vegetables instead of fries because you didn’t want to gain weight, appear unhealthy, or ruin your diet?
And what about choosing something because you’re afraid of what might happen (even though you can’t be sure it will actually happen)? That, I’m sure, you can relate to.
Can we listen to understand without needing to force our opinion; even if we don’t agree, be open to another perspective? Of course, we can, yet that takes intense presence, compassion, and vulnerability. We must lose our fear of being wrong, of being perceived as weak or lesser than or something else.
The option of choosing love over fear is present in nearly everything we think, say, and do. It’s not an impractical thing to wonder how you can live from a place of compassion, desire, and hope rather than insecurity, guilt, and resentment (just a few examples of love vs. fear).
We know the difference. We can feel it immediately and see its resounding impact. It takes clarity and presence, though, in order to even understand the fear.If we don't acknowledge the source of our decisions, we neglect our own power to make a qualitative difference in our experiences. Click To Tweet
The following quotes double as examples of how we can choose love over fear in any situation, and how critical our awareness is in the process of healing our fears and living intentionally. Making conscious choices means we make them on purpose, with full acknowledgment of where they’re coming from and where we’re hoping to go. That beats blindly reacting to stimuli and hoping not to experience what we fear (like, discomfort).
Choosing Love Over Fear: 15 Quotes to Illuminate and Empower Your Decisions (Whatever They Are)
1. “The enemy is fear. We think it is hate; but, it is fear.” — Mahatma Gandhi (attributed)
2. “Try not to confuse ‘attachment’ with ‘love.’ Attachment is about fear and dependency, and has more to do with love of self than love of another. Love without attachment is the purest love because it isn’t about what others can give you because you’re empty. It is about what you can give others because you’re already full.” — Yasmin Mogahed
3. “Until you get comfortable being alone, you’ll never know if you’re choosing someone out of love or loneliness.” — Mandy Hale“If you knew the secret of life, you too would choose no other companion but love.” — Rumi (attributed) Click To Tweet
5. “You are being presented with a choice: evolve or remain. If you choose to remain unchanged, you will be presented with the same challenges, the same routine, the same storms, the same situations, until you learn from them, until you love yourself enough to say ‘no more,’ until you choose change. If you choose to evolve, you will connect with the strength within you, you will explore what lies outside the comfort zone, you will awaken to love, you will become, you will be. You have everything you need. Choose to evolve. Choose love.” — Creig Crippen
6. “It is common to say that we are doing something out of love when we are actually doing it out of fear. Love and fear are complete opposites. So be honest with yourself, are you doing it out of love or are you doing it out of fear?” — Teal Swan
7. “If you want the moon, do not hide from the night. If you want a rose, do not run from the thorns. If you want love, do not hide from yourself.” — Rumi“To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong.” — Joseph Chilton Pearce Click To Tweet
9. “I think the big mistake in schools is trying to teach children anything, and by using fear as the basic motivation. Fear of getting failing grades, fear of not staying with your class, etc. Interest can product learning on a scale compared to fear as a nuclear explosion to a firecracker.” — Folorunsho Mejabi
10. “I choose love over fear, always. I’d rather burn in the fire after touching something true than not feel anything.” — Victoria Erickson
11. “I’ll choose honest over perfect every single time.” — Rachel Wolchin“May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.” — Nelson Mandela Click To Tweet
13. “To love someone fiercely, to believe in something with your whole heart, to celebrate a fleeting moment in time, to fully engage in a life that doesn’t come with guarantees—these are risks that involve vulnerability and often pain. But, I’m learning that recognizing and leaning into the discomfort of vulnerability teaches us how to live with joy, gratitude, and grace.” — Brené Brown
14. “In any given moment, we have two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety.” — Abraham Maslow
15. “If you want to tap into what life has to offer, let love be your primary mode of being, not fear. Fear closes us down and makes us retreat. It locks doors and limits opportunities. Love is about opening to possibilities. Seeing the world with new eyes. It widens our heart and mind. Fear incarcerates, but love liberates.” — John Mark Green
- Is there something you’ve been choosing that’s born of fear and tends to lead to feelings of constriction, dullness, or exhaustion?
- What is the most loving decision you can think of making today?
Please share your favorite quotes and any stories of choosing love over fear with me in the comments.
Share the love from a place of love; send these quotes to someone because you love how good it feels to live from love.
Make one choice today where you’re totally conscious, and you even say to yourself, “I am choosing this because I love _______.” Notice how that feels, to choose with clarity and intention. Notice what fear comes up, whatever its form (procrastination, insecurity, shame, pressure, the need to please, the ticking clock, whatever). Just sit with it all and figure out what you love, and then purposely choose that direction.