“See me.” It’s a call for acknowledgment, compassion, and validation. Those are gifts that every human being needs to give and receive for strong, healthy relationships (which we absolutely need). I’m sharing 5 short poems today to encourage you to be a little bit more present with others today. Your attention sends an extraordinary message.
“Writing eases my suffering . . . writing is my way of reaffirming my own existence.” — Gao Xingjian
That’s the Zulu word for “hello” which literally translates as “I see you and by seeing you I bring you into being.”
I would love to be addressed this way. (It’s kind of how I address my writing.)
I learned about this phrase while listening to Susan David’s TED talk on emotional agility, which I shared here with quotes from the talk.
As human beings, we need to be validated, and we need to validate others. We desperately need to be seen, heard, and understood. And so we must learn how to see with our hearts, how to listen with presence, and how to learn with a deep curiosity.
5 Short Poems to Remind You to Answer the Plea: “See Me.”
1. Let your compassionate presence lead the way.
It’s when we start to feel
like an island
that the world becomes bleak, and
nothing anyone says to us
makes us want to feel
I know what it’s like to feel like an island, but the truth is that nobody is an island, no matter how much it feels like that.
I’ve learned that giving people the gift of your absolute presence of mind and heart—your undivided attention—is a gift unlike anything else. It’s a gift that creates space for sharing and healing.If we exchanged every “hello” with “I see you” instead, the world might be a better place. tell the world
2. Make them feel seen.
who makes everyone
feel seen in your presence.
Again, your presence is a powerful healing agent. It’s relationship glue. It makes a tremendous difference in the quality of your connections (and you won’t be the only one who will notice the change).Be someone who makes everyone feel seen in your presence. tell the world
3. Be with someone.
If only you could read my mind,
then you might
how I’m doing tonight and you would
care enough to stay
long enough to help me
ease my mind.
You can be a blessing by caring, even if you can’t read someone’s mind. That’s the point: we might be able to read into someone’s struggle, but we never really know for sure how deeply they’re hurting.
This is why a loving and patient approach can make such a difference in someone’s life.It takes real courage to see ourselves truthfully and thus be vulnerable, open, and truthful with others. tweet this
4. Listen for a story.
I respect the people who are
in what the quiet person
has to say.
For those with soft speech, I hear you.
Silence doesn’t mean someone is shy or in a poor mood. It could very well be that they are quite busy noticing the world around them, not taking any sensation for granted. Quiet people have stories, but not every mind is trained enough to hear them.“Quiet people have the loudest minds.” — Stephen Hawking tweet this
5. Open your heart.
past the surface.
with your heart.
If we can expand our compassionate awareness to encompass others, we will be able to see far beyond the surface. We will see another Heart in our Heart.
Which of these poems is your favorite?
Tell me in the comments. I read every single one, and I’d love to know!