There are just about ten thousand and one self-care tips and practices waiting for us to incorporate them into our lives. Honestly, there are probably way more than that. Real self-care doesn’t need to be another item on our checklist, though. I think it’s meant to be about how we approach all of those other things that come with the territory of being alive.
“Document the moments you feel most in love with yourself—what you’re wearing, who you’re around, what you’re doing. Recreate and repeat.” — Warsan Shire
… I’d take this one step further and say to document those moments you feel most in love with life.
The topic of self-care is floating around all over the place these days. I think that’s a wonderful thing, but, like anything, the practices that are meant to fill us up sometimes feel like another chore on a never-ending to-do list. And that’s kind of counterintuitive.
Real self-care isn’t about putting more on our plate. It could very well be that we need to take some things off of our plate.
If you read my weekday posts, you know I write and publish a message Monday through Friday. That’s 5 times a week, plus multiple posts daily across four social media platforms. Then there are emails and keeping the website running and other, big-picture projects like writing books.
Right now, for me, real self-care looks like taking something OFF of my plate so that I can work on more big-picture projects.
I just wrote my first book (!) and I really want to relish the feeling of having a lifelong dream come true.
So, here’s a heads up:
Starting tomorrow, and for the rest of this summer—and until and if I change my mind—I am going to be posting “only” four times a week here, rather than five.
I will still be posting often on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and Pinterest. I will still be sending you emails (if you want to get them) including my NEW Love letters. I will also be working on a bigger, surprise project that I think you’re going to love.“If you get tired learn to rest, not to quit.” ― Banksy tell a friend
(Related poem: Be still, my soul.)
Real Self-Care: Learning to Rest, Falling in Love, Filling Your Heart (Not Your Plate)
Perhaps the first step to understanding what real self-care looks like for you is to pause and wonder what you could take off your plate.
Nobody else knows what your soul needs, how your body really feels, what thoughts are swirling around in your head. Taking care of yourself is most powerful when you take the reigns. This is your life. You must be the one to live it.
Things you might consider letting go for spaciousness inside:
- Doing so much work without ample time to enjoy what you’ve done.
- Drinking alcohol or coffee (or so much of it).
- Following such high expectations that you’ve set for yourself that might not still apply.
- Feeling like you need to please everyone.
- Feeling like you need to have a spotless house when what you really need to do is go outside and breathe.
Of course, those are just some of my own thoughts on real self-care that fills me without filling my life with more to-dos (I have enough of those, thank you very much). Ponder the ways in which you’re living now that feel heavy. Meditate on how you could feel lighter.The most fulfilling journey is the one where you return to yourself. remind a friend
For some more ideas, here’s my “Stop Doing” list to inspire your own.
What’s something you might consider setting free so that you could be a bit freer?
Share any lessons you’ve learned about real self-care with me in the comments.
Share this message with a friend, passing along your compassion with it.
Here’s to lighter.