Being the first full month as a 30-year-old, I figured it kind timing to share the positive changes I’ve made in the last decade of my life. This is a reminder to us both that you don’t need to change everything all at once; you can move slowly and steadily in the direction of what feels better for your whole soul. Patience is love.
“Healing isn’t taking the fast lane down the highway. Healing is taking back roads with potholes and dead ends.” — Unknown
I will get “there” whenever “there” and I are ready to be in the same moment. Until then: this moment. This is what matters. This is where I begin, and it will be where I end.
The more I accept where I am and who I am, here and now, the more sustainable my positive changes become.
All in all, I have become more conscious of the changes I do and don’t make, and why. This heightened awareness is the overarching theme and underlying sustenance for my life today. Through it, deep acceptance is possible and through that acceptance I am capable of living into my visions for a better life… one breath at a time.“No amount of self-improvement will make up for a lack of acceptance.” @drRobertHolden tell a friend
I’m sharing this list of positive changes I have made for a couple reasons:
- It helps me refocus my energy into a space of gratitude and possibility.
- It proves that sometimes we need time, maybe a decade, to realize that change is a practice.
I turned 30 last month and I have come to believe that everything is part of a larger practice. This belief has served me greatly in making positive changes that stick—some smaller than others, but all worthy of noting.
May this humble list remind you, too, that you don’t need to figure it all out right now, not even this year. Many intentions take time to bear fruit, and most take patience. Give yourself a break (one of the bigger positive changes you could ever make).
A Decade’s Worth of Positive Changes
In the last 10 years, I have started:
1. Staying with myself when I’m going through a bout of darkness.
2. Caring for my body with simple, natural products and practices: hair and skin care products; dry brushing; hair brushing; oil pulling; natural deodorant and toothpaste.
3. Writing in the name of conscious healing, possibility, and living with heart.
4. Practicing yoga.
5. Icing my neck and back, choosing anti-inflammatory foods, drinking kombucha, taking probiotics and other helpful supplements and adaptogens, and generally caring for my gut and system naturally.
6. Hugging and saying “I love you” more often.
7. Looking at myself in the mirror and saying kind things to my reflection.
8. Sleeping on my back on a quality mattress with a quality pillow and a pillow underneath my knees (a lot better for my neck and back).Give yourself credit for the small positive changes you make. Self-validation is an essential vitamin for continued self-improvement. tell a friend
9. Getting regular massage/bodywork.
10. Saying “no” to more and more things that just don’t feel good for me.
11. Exploring my decisions, faults, judgments, opinions, and grievances with calm curiosity and compassion rather than believing that’s just who I am.
12. Repeating positive affirmations revolving around what I actually do want and enjoy (the alternative never got me far).
14. Breathing deeply.
15. Writing poetry regularly.
16. Basking in the present moment and observing the rhythms of nature.
17. Practicing forgiveness.
18. Experimenting with my creative potential and expression instead of continuing to doubt or devalue what I could do.“When we are ready to make positive changes in our lives, we attract whatever we need to help us.” — Louise Hay tweet this
19. Mentally giving myself a break for making mistakes or feeling any particular kind of feeling.
20. Opting out of excessive drama and negativity.
21. Being honest with myself and others about how I’m feeling and the state of my heart.
22. Contemplating life and death with a mind and heart open to the mysteries.
23. Intentionally feeling like life is the greatest gift and bathing in the energy of reverence.
24. Thinking more holistically about my health and noticing how each aspect of my life—physical, mental, emotional—affects the other.
25. Surrounding myself with positive information, messages, and people.
26. Spending less money on clothes and material items that I don’t really need.
27. Listening to my body and letting it rest when it needs some “time off.”When you are the practice, everything becomes part of the practice and the practice can be lived—less forcefully and with more grace. tell a friend
28. Playing with the idea that it’s okay if I am not right and it’s a strength to be the first one to apologize.
29. Viewing myself as part of and connected to everything else.
30. Giving a voice to gratitude through writing and speaking about what has gone well and is going well.
What positive changes, no matter how small, are you thankful for making?
Share your sustained positive changes and any stories of a meaningful shift with me in the comments below.
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I am still in the process of making positive changes. It is a conscious decision to grow without force. Let yourself be the practice (everything feels so much better, and care-full, that way).