You’re a better friend when you show up with courage, open your heart, get vulnerable, and listen to the stories for the sake of hearing them. It’s hard to be a good friend without courage; it’s hard to find new friends without courage. I have a short, rough-draft-type list of small acts of kindness that we could gift the people in our courageous presence, whether we love them or not. Presence: what a gift.
We need each other to shine.
We need the depth of devotion that forges new friendships and embraces the hearts of our oldest friends. Friendship is the expanding and deepening of our circle of love.
You need time away from your phone and more quality time with the people you cherish, without being distracted by 10,000 things. People need to be seen, heard, encouraged, and cared for. We all need that.“I think 50% of friendship is just being encouraging.” @DanielleLaPorte encourage a friend
Use these suggestions as starting points to inspire and fill (not deplete) the Love cup of others. All can be applied to current relationships and some to those we haven’t forged yet.
16 Small Acts of Kindness to Inspire Better Connections
1. Pin personal notes with kind words to one another using a cork board (or write it on a chalkboard or dry erase board).
2. Offer a specific compliment: “I love how your earrings go with that shirt so well.” “The way you handled that challenge inspired me to…”
3. Go out of your way to offer encouraging words to someone who seems to be struggling.
4. Send a text to someone you care about just to tell them how much you care about them, or what made you think of them.Kind actions speak the language of the heart. tell a friend
5. Hold the door open for others.
6. Let someone go in front of you—in line, on the road.
7. Offer to help: communicate, with your tone and intent, that you’re helping because you want to help, not because you have to.
8. When they’re showering, throw their towel in the dryer for a few minutes and bring it in when you hear the water turn off.
9. Buy a bag of their favorite assortment of treats, hide them throughout the house, and announce a treasure hunt.
10. Schedule a leisurely picnic and talk about their dreams and blessings.
11. Talk about what you both love.
12. Instead of texting your congratulations or empathy, call them.There is a gift of presence. Total attention is about putting their needs first, and it goes a long way. It is devotion, reverence, a sanctuary. Click To Tweet
13. Put your phone away when you’re having a conversation.
14. Make eye contact. Be with them. Listen to the stories.
15. Ask questions like “How’s your heart?” “What are you excited about?” “So, how are you doing, really?” (Inspired by Danielle LaPorte’s podcast, Light Work: so good.)
16. Touch. Hug, a little more and a little longer. Hold hands. While making dinner, offer a touch on the shoulder or back.
What makes you feel seen and heard? What’s your love language?
Tell me in the comments. I read every single one, and I’d love to know!
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