There are so many reasons to smile and so many ways to be happy, even when life doesn’t go as planned. You can experience happiness or crappiness depending on how you choose to experience your experiences.
“You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestation of your own blessings.” – Elizabeth Gilbert
When it’s easy to be self-destructive with your thoughts, when it’s easy to be judgmental and point fingers, and when frustration or impatiencesets in, remind yourself that peace lies in your own hands.
You have the power to be happy in your own skin, and nobody else can do the work for you.
For the sake of your own happiness, keep your mind open to alternatives. Be willing to do things differently and see things from a new angle. Stay clear on your goals, flexible in your methods, and committed to your “why.”
Since things won’t always go our way, we might as well spend our precious energy being at peace in the face of whatever happens “out there.”
7 Ways to Be Happy When Life Seems Crappy
1. Realize that this too shall pass.
Tough times don’t last. People who are committed to making it through the tough times will. A positive disposition transcends any negative upset.
Happiness is a choice and when we choose to see past the struggle that’s right in front of us, we’re able to hold onto the hope that happiness is present always, no matter what our world looks like right now.
Though we may not feel the joy right now, we can still believe that it’s here, patiently waiting for us to put our “perspectacles” on.
2. Talk through it with someone you trust.
Sometimes all you need to do to feel better about life is to talk about it with a close friend, someone who will really listen and hear you without judgment. Pouring your heart out can open your eyes to the root problem and help you uncover a solution.
Share your burden with someone you can trust to listen, to be honest, and to love you through it.
3. Cheer someone else up.
Mark Twain said that “the best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer someone else up.” Helping someone else who is struggling with their own issue, big or small, is a powerful mood booster.
The fact that we can be of service means we have something to give to someone who doesn’t have that something. It’s a solid reminder that even though it could be better, it could be worse, too (and maybe it’s always exactly as it needs to be according to a higher plan).
4. Get moving, literally.
When your mind and body are stressed, physical activity releases pent-up energy and redirects it in a healthy way. Exercise raises your heart rate and triggers a surge of positive hormonal changes that encourage an overall sense of well-being.
Take a walk, go for a hike or a bike ride, do some jumping jacks, practice yoga, dance, throw in a workout video, go to an exercise class—move in any ways that your body likes to move.
5. Contemplate and energize your blessings.
Gratitude, gratitude, and more gratitude. I can’t express enough the importance of being thankful. It’s absolutely essential to your happiness.
If your car breaks down, consider the fact that some people have to walk to work/school/anywhere they want to go every day, and others don’t have a job, school, or close family members to visit at all. Be grateful you have a car to break down in the first place.
Apply this method of thinking to anything that seems crappy in the moment.
Put your energy in what you can appreciate right here, right now, regardless of what’s happening right here and right now. The present moment might contain what’s happening, but what happens isn’t the present moment.
Getting present and detaching from life’s twists and turns for just one moment can begin an upward spiral of positive emotions and experiences, because it’s a pause—a peaceful intervention.
6. Take action.
Taking action is the consequence of taking responsibility for your life (and your happiness).
Write down an action plan for how you will pull yourself through this situation (note that writing and brainstorming are actions). What can you do about it? Looking for solutions trumps complaining about it without doing anything about it.
Ask yourself these questions to get back to joy.
7. Be willing to shift your perception.
The world is as we choose to see it. We are not given a good or a bad life. We are given a life, and it’s up to us to make it good or bad.
What you choose to believe in is what you will look for, and what you look for you will see. Your state of mind determines your state of happiness, because happiness is a state of mind.
Read this affirmation for changing your perspective on things.
- Can you think of any other ways to be happy, some that have worked for you in the past?
- What thoughts or practices lift you up in times of doubt?
- Who or what do you turn to for inspiration and comfort?
Please share your thoughts, lessons in living a full and fulfilled life, and any inspiring stories of positive change with me in the comments.
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You must participate relentlessly in the manifestation of your own happiness.