This is a simple post, but an important one. There are so many different things we can all do to support our happiness. If you really, truly and honestly want to be happy on a regular basis, though, there’s one thing I suggest you try.
is for giving
so give yourself this gift from time to time
and let all of your mistakes
become all of your greatest gifts
If You Want to Be Happy…
Forgive yourself for not being happy. That’s basically this entire post in a nutshell. So if you’d like, you can stop reading here. Otherwise, I have a few thoughts on the subject…
Forgiveness entails the honest willingness to love all the parts of yourself a little more, seeing all your parts as vehicles of love and joy rather than objects of shame or pride. When it comes to the physical aspects of ourselves, remember that we’re given this body in which we shall live out the rest of our human days, but we’re not just a body. We’re a lot more.
There’s some sort of miraculous source of spirit, energy, and aliveness that fuels the physical self, and I think that’s who we really are.
Beneath the veil of unhappiness, in all the chaos, through all the noise, let all you hear be this: forgive. Forgive yourself for your mistakes. Forgive yourself for suffering on behalf of those mistakes. Forgive yourself for being unhappy, when all you really wanted was to be happy. Forgive yourself for being stressed, frustrated, angry, and sad.
Forgive. Let it go.
When you start forgiving yourself (it doesn’t matter what for) you can stop punishing yourself. Forgiveness directed towards yourself dissolves guilt, transforms mistakes into lessons, and lifts the veil of unhappiness so that you can see again that you’re not only worthy of the love and joy that’s available, but you are made of love and joy.
Forgiving yourself, even if you do it only once, is proof that you’re capable of stepping outside of your small thoughts and looking beyond your physical existence, and saying: “It’s all okay.” To forgive yourself is to transcend yourself. This is a miracle that can be repeated without limit.
If you want to be happy, forgive every single person, circumstance, situation, event, and inconvenience. Forgive your negative thoughts, your tired body, your total and overwhelming unhappiness that has kept you a prisoner within yourself. Try forgiving it all, from the bottom of your heart. Step outside of yourself and forgive it all.
If you want to be happy, you don’t need to punish yourself for not being happy. Forgive yourself for not being happy in the first place, and you set yourself free from the chains of unhappiness. You can be happy again because you’ve given yourself a gift: the freedom to be happy.
- Are you willing to forgive yourself for being unhappy, and to keep forgiving yourself whenever the need arises?
- Are you willing to embrace yourself, unhappiness and all, and let it all go–the expectations, the missteps, the meltdowns?
- Can you give yourself this gift, even just once, to see how it might change things?
Please share your own thoughts, insights, lessons, and forgiving experiences with me in the comments.
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“I forgive myself for not being happy. I free myself.”
Watercolor texture by Lost and Taken; lettering by Aim Happy.