Feeling sad is part of the healing process, and it’s part of living a full and meaningful life. Navigating the rich tapestry of being a human is a colorful journey. Keep alive the awareness that you’re more than your emotions, and your emotions will morph into important messengers that arise to guide you in the direction you’re meant to go.
“Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness.” – Desmond Tutu
There’s nothing wrong with feeling sad. It’s not something to run away from or numb—nothing we feel or go through is worthy of our avoidance. Emotions are signals, part of an internal guidance system that supports our human journey so that we can live all the days of our lives here.
Life is such that even the darkness becomes the birthplace of new growth; new and old, light and dark are destined to be entwined. In other words, everything is contained in everything else. We cannot have one thing without having everything that led to it, and will come from it.
To be fully human is to be deeply rooted in all that led you to this place, and eternally tied to everything that will come from this place.
When You’re Feeling Sad…
Step into the sun.
Let the sun shine on you, literally and in every other way. Letting yourself be touched by the sun’s rays is a reminder that the light is never too far away, and that it’s ready to come back to you whenever you’re ready for it to come back.
Letting yourself be in the sun is also an act of courage, resilience, and faith, as you’re staying open to the light’s presence even when you feel like staying in the dark, hidden away from the world.
Whoever or whatever it is, there’s always another presence in this universe that understands you completely. It can be heartbreaking to be a human being, so thank goodness we’re all—all of us, everything—closer than we seem to be. We’re all an expression of the same source: I call it Life.
When you’re feeling sad, broken down, worn out, beat up, let down, or misunderstood, let the sunshine sink into your human skin and tell you that you’re not as far away from the light as you feel.
Tell people you love them, and hug them.
Hold on to each other. Lean on each other. Whether it’s one person, one hundred people, a stranger, or a pet, know that you’re in this together and there are others who care, who love you, and who will help you through difficult times.
Accept the care, the love, and the help with humble gratitude… even though it may not be easy. When someone is giving to you, they’re also receiving. We’re not as separate as the eye tells us we are, and the exchange of loving energy cannot move from one being without two being touched.
When you’re feeling sad, I know that there’s not much that can take the heartache or pain away. I’ve been there. Just like being vulnerable (strong) enough to receive love and light is a healing, you’ll find healing in the process of expressing your love for others…
A sincere hug or the simple words “I love you” and “I care” can pierce the veil of grief, no matter which side of the veil they come from, even if it’s only briefly.
Whether you’re on a maintain or in a valley, never stop letting the people you love know that you love them. Though from your current vantage point they might seem like they’re way ahead of you, on top of their mountain while you’re low in the valley, perception can be deceiving.
If you have but a tiny spark of light left in you, give it away to someone else. Your candle won’t lose its flame, and you might rekindle theirs.
Let yourself feel it.
It’s okay to not feel okay. It’s okay to not want to smile when you’re feeling sad. It’s okay to feel whatever you’re feeling. It’s okay to be in the darkness sometimes, but we need to move through it in order to realize we’re beyond of it.
You’re a human, remember, so you were blessed with consciousness upon birth, and it really is a gift. It means you get to experience life from a unique viewpoint, one that life longs to experience—hence, you. You’re a way for the universe to know itself, to feel what it feels like to be alive, deeply and profoundly in all directions.
There’s no need to beat yourself up for feeling any certain way. You can forgive yourself for it if you feel like you’re at that point. If you’re not ready to move in another direction, just know that it’s healthy and normal to feel whatever is coming up right now.
Healing is a process. Life is a journey. You are healing, because you are in the journey. Everything has its value.
Let the darker times remind you to stay humble and grateful for living another day on earth. Stay humble, because of your humanness, and stay grateful for your divine heritage.
Accept the incredible gift of being here, right now, and praise it by dwelling in a deep state of gratitude for this one moment—not what’s happening in the container of this moment; just this breath. In this one breath, all life is contained. All power to change is here.
If you can only be thankful for one deep inhale and exhale, give thanks.
Let this gloomy moment be a stark reminder that your task right now is to accept the miraculous gift of life–of being here, as a human, for a little while.
- When you’re feeling sad, what makes you feel better about the situation, or about life?
- During difficult or stressful times, what has helped you move through the chaos and come out on the other side?
Please share your thoughts, healing experiences, clarity gained from touching the depths of being a human, or any inspiring stories of transformation with me in the comments.
Share this post with someone as a reminder of their own light, and healing potential.
Step into the sun. Say, “I love you.” Feel this. Stay humble. Stay grateful.
Free wreath graphic by Lisa Glanz; lettering by Aim Happy.