Forget about doing “all of the things” or “hacking” anything, or being perfect right now; these are the suuuuper simple things I actually just did to feel better (like, right before I sat down to write this, and kind of right in the middle of doing that). You don’t have to do all the big things right now. Maybe it’s just the normal, easy processes that will bring you back to a place of ease—maybe even bliss, or at least hope.
Disclaimer: This post is so NOT perfect, which is indicative of my life. Being a human is interesting. There are so many things we can do to feel better, but we can’t do them all all of the time. We do what we can, where we are, with what we have.
If you’ve been feeling frustrated, stressed, depleted, stretched too thin, and/or have been experiencing headaches or back pain or neck pain or brain fog, cheers to you because you’re still alive and there’s always an answer. By the way, I’m right there with you.
This is a journey. I know you might be sick of hearing that, because I know I am, but I’m also aware that I can’t escape the fact that it’s a journey, still. I think it’s probably good news that we’re on a path and not just hopping from one mountaintop to another, anyhow: It means we can switch gears without falling off the face of the earth, in a sense.
We’re not walking until we’re standing on a mountain, free of the troubles and distractions around us, completely safe at our destination forever, above all the tasks of living in the world each day. We are always walking, and we can change direction or pace whenever we want. Whew.
Basically, the following outline is what just happened in my life. I took a “time out” from the “go go go, do this, do that” vibe that I’ve been riding for… hmm… most of my life.
I think that we’re so bombarded by all the things we “should” be doing to be super healthy and at our highest level, that we feel crushed by the weight of all the things we’re not doing. Our day-to-day reality and our ideals seem lightyears apart. Hey, I get it. I really, really do.
For me, feeling totally at ease, vibrant, energetic, and abundant seems so farfetched at times, so far away from how I actually feel. You know what I just realized though? It’s all good. Yeah. I don’t have to do “all the things” right here in this one moment. I can do something, though.
This is that “something” I did to recharge my batteries. I need higher energy levels. I need less headaches. I would really like to feel physically strong again. I’m tired of an achy back that makes writing so hard sometimes. I’m tired of feeling like a madwoman with my neverending to-do list.
So, this is for you. I hope you’re reminded to be easy on yourself in this journey that’s sometimes so overwhelming. You’re far from alone. You don’t have to be perfect, just try cozying up to that reset button. You need it.
This Is What I Did to Feel the Way I Want to Feel (Hint: It Worked!)
First, I became unavailable to the outside world.
I shut off all of my notifications on my phone and desktop. No pings, no sounds, no badges, no little red numbers telling me how many things I must attend to—nothing.
I put my phone on airplane mode (I am on a time out, thank you) and left it upstairs while I went downstairs to commence with the pressing of my reset button.Taking a break is good for the soul. My soul told me so. Click To Tweet
Second, I finished something I had been wanting to finish for a while but kept putting off because I was too busy.
I hung up the kitchen curtains in our new apartment. Ahhhh… that felt good. Finishing something you started feels good. Getting away from the busy world and doing something so simple, like a household task, feels good. One. Thing. At. A. Time. Please.
Third, I did nothing else until I drank a glass of water.
“Hydration, please” my muscles and joints and head have been begging me lately. Time to listen!
Next, I took a shower and did a little self-loving pampering… slowly.
I took my time. I turned up the heat in the bathroom, swished some coconut oil while I brushed my hair with my boar bristle brush, put a face mask on, shampood and conditioned my hair, did an apple cider vinegar rinse, put oil on my body, and exfolitated my hands.
Did I mention that I didn’t rush through all of this, like usual?Rushing feels like there's love missing somewhere. Slowing down feels like a melt into love. Click To Tweet
Next, I poured hot water into a mug and made myself some matcha tea.
I haven’t done this in a looooong time. Wow, now that I think about it: months. Moving into a new apartment distracted me from my usual nourishing traditions, and I love matcha tea, and have been so distracted that I forgot how much I’ve been missing the love of my rituals.
A little matcha powder, hot water (or milk), and raw honey is just what I’d been needing. Thanks, random inspiration from a podcast episode on stress that my best friend has been recommending to me for months that I finally just decided to listen to…
After that, I came back to work without overthinking it, and I broke my own “rules.”
Mug in hand, I just sat down and wrote what I felt like writing without caring about how it came out. No keywords to worry about. No structure in mind. Some sentences too long? Maybe. Oh well. Not trying to sound amazing or poetic (sorry… but I’m not really sorry… nevermind that first sorry).Just doing something without fretting about the outcome is liberating. Click To Tweet
You’d think because I write about calming things that I’d be a calm person. Sometimes. I’d prefer more often, though. Way more often. I am calm right now writing this, because I just did these easy things, gave myself a break, acutally did the things I write about, and stopped caring about the “rules” I set for myself to be great—I just lived, instead.
Before that tea and during that shower, I forgot to mention that I sat down in the shower and took 10 slow, deep, mindful breaths.
I usually don’t give myself time for an unhurried shower, or a full set of ten mindful breaths, so this felt amazing.
I feel like I’m always racing against the clock. Oh, and I definitely could use more mindful breathing during my days. It feels like you can never have too much mindful breathing. I think it keeps the heart and head happy. Let’s do that more often, okay?What happens when you don't look to the clock for guidance? Maybe, presence. Click To Tweet
8. I stopped in the middle of writing this to lie down and meditate.
I know that doing things from start to finish feels so good. It feels wonderful to finish the task you set out to finish in one sitting (hello, new curtains, nice to see you up there!). You know what, though? I broke that rule, too. I broke another rule, and I let my body have what it needed: another break.
Meditation first thing in the morning is like life fuel for me, but I still missed it this morning. Why should one missed opportunity have to mean a full days’ worth of tension? Look for another opportunity, and be open to it when it comes. There’s always another opening.Lesson learned: Let your rules be soft enough to bend when necessary. Click To Tweet
9. I looked at my phone only long enough to reach out to a friend.
I feel better now after that meditation, so much so that I think I’ll reach out to someone I love and care about who is always supportive of me. (Just did that.) I told them that they’re amazing, and thank you for always inviting me over even though I’m not able to chill as often as I’d like. Oh, and I love them. I said the three words! Sometimes, that’s all it takes to feel better.
Here’s the one thing I want you to know today: It doesn’t have to take a huge lifestyle change to overhaul your life. It might take that eventually, but that’s a lot to ask for overnight. Instead, maybe just try to do those things that feel good to you already, nourishing and loving. Go do that today.
You don’t have to do everything all at once. You can do something today to feel that freedom you long to feel deep in your bones. It’s there. There are answers for you. Take your time. Press that reset button. Let hope show up again to walk with you. And know that you’re not walking alone.
How do you chill out? What super simple things REALLY work for you?
Please share what helps you feel relaxed and refreshed to live without worrying too much about too much. Please share your positive practices, routines, habits, and reminders that actually calm you down and lift you up. When you actually do what you say you “should” do, how do you feel?
Share all your love with me in the comments.
I welcome you with wide OPEN arms to share this with someone in your life who is totally due for a zen session.
Spirit hugs. Give one to yourself sometimes… maybe today.