Use these positive self-talk alternatives in place of self-depreciating statements. When you feel like beating yourself up, instead turn to something more productive and creative: try loving yourself anyway. Rather than calling yourself names, risk curiosity and be willing to look at yourself through the lens of grace.
Our relationships can be the greatest source of growth and healing, yet they can also be platforms for pain. It depends on how we show up for the relationship. It depends on the other person too, true. Still, the more we show up with a conscious effort of bringing into the relationship the same essence, […]
Happiness is more of a direction than a zip code or the height of an achievement. With that in mind, I penned these self-care affirmations to help the both of us walk in the direction that feels good in our hearts, rather than get stuck on what’s “not perfect” or hasn’t yet met the standards […]
Self-compassion can be both a grand gesture of acceptance and a seemingly trivial display of respect. With time, self-compassion (a branch of self-love, which is a branch of real love) begins to encompass everything and permeate everything, impacting how we treat others and how we view our roles in the world. What self-compassion means to […]
Why is it that we console a baby when it cries yet we don’t show ourselves the same quality of compassion? What has changed? Where is the arbitrary line we draw that forces us into an adulthood that leaves no room for this kind of presence? You don’t need a textbook on healing a broken […]
This is something I’ve been practicing lately, and it has been a healing practice (which means I bump into my issues and self-imposed limitations along the way): “Inhale who I am. Exhale who I am not.” If you’ve been telling yourself who you are for your whole life and it isn’t helping you move forward, […]
Of course, we don’t love what we’re healing from, but the healing process itself offers a smorgasbord of serendipities that include grace, mercy, joy, companionship, unconditional love, and authenticity. There’s something worth stumbling upon here. Here’s what I’m doing to heal consciously, with as much of those forgiving qualities as possible.