It’s not always easy to do what’s worth doing. Then again, something that’s worth doing may very well be much easier than we had imagined. It all comes down to what we decide, and how we approach it. But what about the things we want to stop doing? What’s not serving you? If your soul is craving some transformation, it might be something worth mentioning in your STOP Doing list.
“Every positive change in your life begins with a clear, unequivocal decision that you are going to either do something or stop doing something.” — Brian Tracy
I feel as though a new month is a great time to consider how less doing can lead to more of everything that matters (like peace of mind, and joy in the journey). The poem I shared on the blog yesterday really got me thinking about the beauty of stopping. It feels so good!
When your soul is begging for less doing (like mine is), it’s a sign that you’re probably trying to “make it happen” way too much. All that pressure and a “I’ll do it all on my own” kind of attitude really suffocates our creativity, joy, and appreciation in the present moment. That approach also leads to burnout, which is the opposite of what’s helpful to you and your goals.Forcing the outcome leaves little room for spontaneous inspiration. Click To Tweet
My “Stop Doing” list is inspired by Danielle Laporte’s Free and Clear 6-week guided experience (which is free, and amazing, because this woman is amazing, if you didn’t already know). She affirms that “what you stop doing is just as important as what you start doing.” Oh, yes it is. This week’s experiment calls for some detangling and offers up a healthy dose of encouragement.
You can call what’s below an awareness of what needs to be set free, a freedom technique of sorts. Danielle calls it “enlightened quitting.” I love that. My intention of sharing my personal collection of not-to-dos is that you’re inspired to consider all those things you’re currently doing that you dream of dropping.
I’m getting vulnerable here, and sharing some personal struggles that I’m facing right now. The healing messages I share on this blog don’t reflect how I always am. I tend to write about the very things I need to focus on myself; in this way, we’re always in the journey together.
Consider what you’d like to stop doing, even if it’s a little scary to imagine being without. It might be scary because it proposes a change big enough to affect your entire life. This exercise doesn’t require you to actually do (well, stop doing) anything, though; it’s meant to bring clarity to the habits, distractions, behaviors, and beliefs that are running the show behind the scenes. How liberating it can be just to have that kind of clarity.
Here’s to heightened awareness, clarity of intention, newfound space, and self-respect.Stopping is good for the soul. Click To Tweet
26 Things That I’d (Really) Like to Stop Doing
- Saying “yes” before I’ve truly considered how a “yes” might end up feeling later on.
- Checking my email every time I get a new notification.
- Getting so many notifications.
- Feeling guilty about doing what’s right for me.
- Going through the whole day without stretching.
- Transitioning from one activity to another without taking a break to reset.
- Feeding my excessive expectations without consciously examining them.
- Clinging to things that naturally want to keep moving.
- Spending so much time fretting about time.
- Doubting my strengths.
- Doubting my possibilities.
- Thinking that others never struggle and that I’m the only one.
- Pretending that nobody understands.
- Countering compliments with reasons why I wouldn’t have given myself that compliment.
- Working as soon as I wake up.
- Checking my phone as soon as I wake up.
- Feeding the belief that I’m too busy to have fun.
- Making comments about financial lack.
- Acting like self-care isn’t still a priority on good days.
- Devaluing my happiness every time something tragic happens in the world.
- Doing ten things at a time.
- Carrying my work around with me (on my shoulders, in my head) when I’m not working.
- Mindlessly carrying residual energy over from one area of my life to another.
- Silently seeking praise and then being disappointed that I didn’t get it.
- Using the word “can’t.”
- Using the word “should.”
These are just a few of my not-so-favorite things… that could be transformed into wonderful white space.
- What’s at the top of your “stop doing” list?
- How do you want to feel, like, more often than not?
Please share your not-to-do list, practices that help keep you aware of what’s serving you and what’s not, and any helpful or insightful stories/nuggets of advice with me in the comments.
Share the serenity with a friend; send them my Stop Doing list to inspire their own not-to-dos.
Do less. Your soul will hug you—bliss from the inside out.