The more clear you are about your priorities the easier it is to live your life according to you. Why wouldn’t you want to live a life that feels good, right, and on purpose? The way you live is what you end up giving to the world. Here are ten questions and prompts to get you thinking about how you can create experiences that match your intentions.
“At the end of our lives, we will all ask, ‘Did I live? Did I love? Did I Matter?'” ― Brendon Burchard
Say someone says or does something offensive. Do you retaliate with their fear or will you respond from a place of love because that’s who you are? Do you acknowledge that differing perspectives exist and then respond according to your truth with tolerance and compassion because that’s who you are?
The only way we can live the way we want to live regardless of what others think, say, or do is to get clear on the way we want to live. Simple concept, but powerful when practiced.
Clarity, in this sense, empowers you to:
- Love because that’s who you are.
- Forgive because you want to be free.
- Say yes because your heart says “Yes!” Otherwise, say no.
- Place a whole lot of value on the way you live your life—so much so, that the way other people live their lives doesn’t crush you or deter you from being your most authentic, creative, loving, playful, and powerful you.
I enjoy writing and answering prompts in my journal nowadays because I receive valuable feedback: What matters to me right now and what can I do to feel the way I want to feel? How can I live the life I envision for myself? How can I honor others while honoring myself?
These are pretty important topics for people living with purpose and passion.
Whether you’re writing in a journal to gain clarity or not, you can use the following prompts to uncover what feelings, engagements, dreams, and goals matter to you and what you can do to live closer to the life that feels right for you.
I answered these prompts and supplied my italicized answers below to inspire and guide you.
Live Your Life According to You: Prompts to Clarify and Guide You
1. Finish this sentence ten times: “I feel most alive when…”
- … I am practicing yoga outside.
- … I am going for a walk in nature.
- … I am focused and “in the zone” while writing.
- … I am exercising and breaking a sweat (besides yoga).
- … I am committed to a plant-based diet.
- … I am exploring a new city.
- … I drink lots of water and healing drinks to stay hydrated and nourished.
- … I do something nice for someone without wanting anything in return, just because I feel like it.
- … I attend a party and am totally engaged with the people in the moment, without thinking about work.
2. Answer these three questions.
- From 0-100% how alive do I feel right now in my life?
- How could I feel 10% more alive?
- Eat more vegetables.
- How could I feel 50% more alive? (It’s okay if this last question takes you past 100 percent.)
- Jog for at least 10 minutes every day.
3. What three words describe who I am and how I want to be remembered by others? Why did I choose each word?
- Compassionate. Living from love helps me be my brightest self and live my best life.
- Calm. Getting anything done in life is easier, more confident, and more enjoyable if I’m at peace with myself.
- Playful. Feeling curious, energetic, friendly, lighthearted, and expressive are all good things.
4. What three words describe how I want to engage with others—how do I want to treat others and how do I want to be treated? Why did I choose each word?
- Patient. I want to feel heard and get all my thoughts out without being interrupted mid-sentence, and I want that for others.
- Present. I want to be seen and felt, and I want that for others. I want to really connect, deeper than distracted thought, reactivity, and mental stress. I don’t want to hold people in their past, and I don’t want to be held in mine.
- Open. I want others to feel like they can express their truths to me without drama, games, reservation, doubt, insecurity, or defensiveness. I want to be loved and loving, accepting and accepted, honest, and strong in my vulnerability.
5. What are three feelings that I consider enjoyable and/or meaningful and want to experience more often? Why?
- Unity. Feeling like I’m deeply connected to everything gives me this divine sense of appreciation, compassion, and protection. I feel at ease in myself and in the world with others.
- Gratitude. The more grateful I feel, the more lighthearted and less stressed I become. I’m easier to be around and I can more easily see the good in others. It makes me feel rich in the largest sense.
- Happiness. Life is easier. People are easier to accept, appreciate, or at least tolerate. I can see new solutions and all kinds of fear (doubt, insecurity, anger, jealousy, regret, bitterness) fade away.
6. If I were the best version of myself, what three philosophies would I live by?
- I am enough already and I have everything I need to do, have, or be anything I want.
- Everything is going to be better than okay, so I trust where I am on this path right now and see everything as a guide of some sort.
- If I keep giving the energy I want to live in, that will be exactly what I receive.
7. What are two habits or activities that help me feel powerful and protected from negative energy?
- I practice positive affirmations. (This one is great for positive energy.)
- I take a little extra time to take care of myself, unwind, and unplug.
8. What are two things I can do today to contribute to the kind of world I want to live in?
- Write a blog post that makes me feel better so that it might also make someone else feel better.
- Engage only in social media posts that contribute to a better world.
9. Think of a person, behavior, or exchange that bothers/annoys you. Try to stay open and be objective. What can you do to feel a little more caring and care-free during that experience?
Take a bunch of deep breaths instead of reacting right away—maybe all I do is take deep breaths.
10. If there was one message I’d want my life to stand for, what might it be? (This doesn’t have to be a permanent or perfect answer.)
It’s possible to rise from the ashes of what you thought would destroy you.
Which of these questions got you thinking about how you can live your life according to you?
Please share your thoughts and answers, the clarity you’ve gained by following your heart, what matters most to you these days, and anything else related to purpose with me in the comments.
Encourage the people you care about to live their lives on their own terms too. Send them these prompts to get them thinking.
Focus on what you want to grow because your focus is like fertilizer.