These positive mantras are for those times when frustration, stress, anger, arguments, and overreactions are tempting to diminish your peace, and muddy your relationships.
“Inner peace doesn’t come from getting what we want, but from remembering who we are.” – Marianne Williamson
When someone’s behavior doesn’t match your expectations, this is a vital opportunity to cultivate in yourself a new way of seeing the situation.
In our minds, things will go a certain way but, as many of us have already experienced, things don’t always (or usually) turn out perfectly in line with our plans.
One of the most difficult challenges we face as human beings is to release the need to control every single thing (or person) around us, and to shift our focus to gaining internal control.“Every day there is only one thing to learn: how to be honestly happy.” – Sri Chinmoy Click To Tweet
Repeating the following statements to yourself in the moment can help you choose a more considerate and constructive response, one that’s conducive to happiness. The pause you take to think and speak these positive mantras gives you a chance to stop, reflect, recalibrate, and become mindful in your approach.
Take a deep breath (or two, or three, or several). These positive mantras can help us all practice peace and compassion, together, because we’re all human and therefore imperfect.
7 Powerful Positive Mantras for Happy Relationships
1. My inner peace begins internally.
My peace does not begin with things happening as I expected or hoped. My peace does not begin with anyone else’s behavior. Only I can cultivate the internal space where my inner peace can live.
2. Difficult times are often expressed with difficult behavior.
When others are being difficult, they’re probably going through a challenging time of their own, one I may know nothing about. Even if I do know something about it, chances are they’re internalizing that difficult experience in ways I cannot see. If their behavior or words are not coming from a loving place, I can view it as a call for love.
I can give them compassion, patience, and space instead.“Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.” – Dalai Lama Click To Tweet
3. One’s behavior has more to do with their perception than anyone else.
Someone else’s angry outburst has more to do with their internal world than it does with mine. In contrast, the judgment I place on another calls me to look within myself for peace, and not to look for fulfillment in others.
4. Being at peace is more important than being right.
Whether or not I could be right is not a priority. Peace is better than being right. I don’t need to attend every argument that I’m invited to. I don’t need to welcome any needless drama into my life today, so I will not provide a room for it to stay.Would you rather be right or happy? – A Course In Miracles Click To Tweet
5. Exhale negativity. Inhale the energy to be positive.
A moment of silence in a moment of anger can save many moments of stress. By taking the time to pause, I give myself a chance to be mindful instead of blindly reacting to an unloving situation with an unloving attitude. I breathe in the moment so that I’m connected to life, and I’m not avoiding it.
Exhaling the dark energy inside gets it out of my system and into the light where it can be dissolved. Anytime a negative, hurtful thought or feeling arises, I can greet it and exhale it out, sending it on its way.
6. I have the power to greet an unloving situation with a loving attitude.
My heart and mind are wide open. I have the power to transform anything negative into something positive. I can bring peace with me where it’s lacking. I can bring love and light to the situation where it’s forgotten. I can enter the conversation with a different attitude.
I don’t need to keep the negative momentum going, but I can throw a loving pebble into the cycle.“If you look the right way, you can see that the whole world is a garden.” – Frances Burnett Click To Tweet
7. All good things come to a relaxed mind.
My answers will come when my mind is still. The mindful space I give to myself, to others, and to our relationship invites things to fall into place without argument. My peaceful, positive attitude dictates how I will live my life. We will all get to the same destination, but how I get to mine is my choice.
I choose to get there with joy in my heart.
- Which of these positive mantras applies to your relationships?
- Which are you going to try today?
- Will you value your peace of mind and your happiness over the need to be right or the desire to be perfect?
Please share your own positive mantras, thoughts, wisdom, or experiences with me in the comments.
Share these positive mantras with someone who could use a little inspiration today.
Bring peace with you.
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