I wasn’t at all into using positive affirmations until I realized that I was always affirming something, whether negative or positive, doubtful or hopeful–it turns out I was usually leaning towards the negative. That realization propelled me to try something new.
“Never say anything about yourself that you do not want to come true.” – Brian Tracy
The words we speak reflect the thoughts that are rolling through the mind. If we let our minds become still, whether it’s through meditating or flowing in some activity we enjoy, we might see that so many of our thoughts are just different variations of the same thing. Most of our thoughts are repetitive.
Your thoughts affect your world, yet you are more than your thoughts: You are the witness to your thoughts, and you are the one who can choose which you’d like to keep, and which you’d like to let go of now.
How can a negative mind give me a positive life? That’s the question that, when I really considered the obvious answer, propelled me to try a new way of approaching life. Perhaps if I approached life the way I wanted to live–instead of always reacting to what I didn’t like in the world–maybe I could summon the energetic power to change how I felt on a day-to-day basis.
It’s powerful to dwell in the energy of what you love instead of what you hate; to linger on your blessings instead of your burdens.
If I wanted to be happy, would proclaiming all the reasons why I couldn’t be happy help me? Would listing all the conditions of my potential happiness draw it nearer or keep it just out of reach? The answer was obvious, but the practice of affirming that I really could be happy was what catapulted a joyful state.
We Are Always Affirming Something
“No matter what the situation, remind yourself ‘I have a choice.’” – Deepak Chopra
Your energy speaks louder than both your words and your actions. Yet the words you identify with, and the thoughts you keep, will have a dramatic effect on your energy.
The choice we always have, regardless of the situation, is how we will experience the situation. Who will we be? Will we identify ourselves with the chaotic thoughts or the peace far beneath them?
Every complaint is an affirmation of something you think you don’t want in your life. Every angry response is an affirmation for more anger in your life. Each time we reach for what we think we need to be happy instead of being grateful for what we have now, we’re affirming that we don’t have enough and we’ll probably never have enough.
When you start to pay attention to your thoughts, you can begin to acknowledge and correct the ones creating experiences you don’t want in your life. You don’t need to focus on eliminating negative thoughts altogether, but you can learn to watch them go by without becoming attached to them. They are not who you are.
By repeating affirmations on purpose, over and over, you’ll be planting new seeds in the fertile soil of your subconscious mind, and they’ll become true for you.
The Power of Positive Affirmations
“I do not fix problems. I fix my thinking. Then problems fix themselves.” – Louise Hay
Louise Hay is an influential figure in the realm of positive affirmations. My admiration for her comes from her life-changing commitment to living a healthier life (she’s currently 90 years old) and inspiring millions of others to do the same through her books, speaking, healing techniques, and positive philosophy.
Louise sees a positive affirmation as a key that opens the door, as “a beginning point on the path to change.” That’s exactly what affirmations have become for me.
Every conscious affirmation is a message to your subconscious mind that basically says, “I am taking responsibility. I am aware that there is something I can do to change. I choose to walk another way.”
The truth is that choosing how you experience your experiences will transform the experiences for you. The truth is that you CAN feel good about yourself, you CAN make positive changes that stick, and you CAN be happy.
Louise recommends saying a positive affirmation to/about yourself each time you pass a mirror. How does your internal dialogue read right now? Do you usually say something nice to yourself, or do you harbor mean thoughts toward yourself?
Say something positive about your life, and you’ll invite more of that positive energy into your life, because you’re bringing the energy you want to live in. Like motivational author Brendon Burchard says, “A power plant doesn’t have energy; it generates energy. You don’t have joy; you generate joy.”
This is why I share an affirmation each Monday. Even if you don’t want to use that affirmation that week, or any parts of it, it might inspire you to think of how you’d like to live that week (or that day, that month, even just for that moment).
It’s up to you how you work your affirmations, but it’s liberating to remember that you’re always affirming something. It’s liberating because it means you can reconsider how you’re experiencing life, and make a positive internal change that will improve your mental and emotional well-being.
You have the power to choose one thought over another, to identify yourself with a thought or not, to prioritize certain language or not, and to affirm the qualities of life that you want to experience.
- How have positive affirmations helped you think more clearly, feel better, and live happier?
- Are you willing to look at your negativity without connecting yourself to it? Can you see your judgmental thoughts without judgment?
- What are you affirming today? How are you affirming to live your life today?
Please share your thoughts, any of your own favorite positive affirmations, helpful insights, lessons, and any experiences with me in the comments.
Share this with someone who might appreciate a positive shift in their life.
You can choose to walk another way–to walk in another way. You have that power.
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