Yes, those stressful situations, those chaotic days, even the people you find it difficult to work with—there’s a way to shift it all. If you can open your heart to this one idea, you’ll be able to stop stressing out about the stress in your life. You’ll find the freedom to truly live.
“Why worry? If you have done the very best you can, worrying won’t make it any better. If you want to be successful, respect one rule – never let failure take control of you. Everybody has gone through something that has changed them in a way that they could never go back to the person they once were. Relations are like electric currents, wrong connections will give you shocks throughout your life, but the right ones will light up your life.” – Leonardo Dicaprio
Life tends to be stressful. It’s also absolutely amazing. Stress and fear and uncertainty–these qualities will still exist, and there’s space for them, but they don’t have to control your life. A shift in perspective is exactly what it takes to stop stressing out about the stressful experiences, and to start loving the mysteries of life.
Re-frame the Stress
It’s not what you say to everyone else that determines your life – it’s what you whisper to yourself that has the greatest power.
Re-frame the way you think about your life, from the fact that you exist at all to the tiniest details of living.
- How do you generally think about the busyness that overwhelms you?
- What do you say to yourself when you’re in a chaotic place?
- When you feel rushed, where do you feel it in your body?
When we consistently think about how busy we are, we let that busyness overwhelm us. The stories we tell ourselves during times of stress, and even during quiet times, can either amplify our stress or amplify our joy.
We may want a lot of things in life, and we may want them to go a certain way. We can’t control whatever it is we’re stressing about, but we can stop stressing out about it. No matter how impossible it feels, it is absolutely possible.Everything seems impossible until it's done. -- Nelson Mandela Click To Tweet
In this case, a shift in perspective makes an ocean of difference. It can transform everything. Re-framing our stress doesn’t erase it, and that’s just the point: it transforms it into something manageable, supportive to our growth, and really nothing to worry about at all.
Re-framing your stress involves reorganizing your thoughts to focus on your priorities, release limitations, and amplify happiness-enhancing alternatives.
Consciously check in with your thoughts—what you’re whispering to yourself inside your head when you’re stressed—and handpick fresh thoughts that:
1. Focus on your priorities. Will you prioritize what you’re afraid of happening, or your trust in the process? Will you prioritize things going your way, or peace? Will you prioritize being right, or being happy? What really matters? Know your priorities and magnify them.
2. Gently release limitations. Instead of holding on to beliefs that you’re not good enough (or anything enough), or that life is not kind enough (or anything enough), what if you tried out new beliefs that support your abilities and life’s positive possibilities?
3. Amplify happiness-enhancing alternatives. You can’t do it all, but you can do your best and you can do things with love and joy. You may not be able to save everyone, but you can make the people around you feel respected and loved. You can describe your life as busy and overwhelming, or you can label it as rich and interesting.
You can zero in on what you doubt will happen, or start dwelling in (and attracting) the good energy you crave. Once you release your limitations, you can replace them with new ideas about positive outcomes, a satisfying journey, and empowering experiences.
It’s all about how you look at it. Then, what you see is determined by the stories you tell yourself. What you pay attention to grows, and what you prioritize reigns.
Stop Stressing Out, and Find a Way to Love More Fiercely
Focus on one small step, one thing you’re doing right now, that you can take from a place of love rather than fear, joy rather than doubt, trust rather than worry. Pay attention to the little things and the ordinary moments, for there’s so much joy to discover there and so much opportunity to put your “reframe” mindset into practice.
Make happiness and peace top priorities, and let the external world realign with your shift in energy.
A shift in perspective: That’s what it takes to stop stressing out about stress, and to start really enjoying the richness of life.
When the inside changes, everything changes.
- When you know you’re stressed, what reminder you to stop stressing out about it?
- How can you re-frame the stress in your life right now?
- What shift in perspective, what miracle, could you experience today?
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When you stop stressing out, you can start loving more. Keep breathing through it all.