We long for peace, though we may go about it different ways. These mantras will help fortify our internal peace so that we can extend it into every relationship, and not wait for others to bestow that gift first. Happy relationships happen when we prioritize happiness first.
“Do all the good you can, by all the means you can, in all the ways you can, in all the places you can, at all the times you can, to all the people you can, as long as ever you can.” – John Wesley
In every single area of your life, what you put out into the universe will be reciprocated back to you in a multitude of ways. The form the reciprocity takes will change, the people may change, and the circumstances will likely be different, but it will meet you where you’re at. What you give, in other words, is always given back to you in such a way that you’ll be most likely to grow from it.
Give your goodness in all the ways you can, and life will mirror your gifts. Withhold something from someone else, and you withhold yourself from experiencing those things.
The following mantras can be used when times are tough, tension is thick, emotions are high, or you just want to bring a little more light into the situation. Happy relationships happen when you strengthen your capacity for peace inside of yourself.
These mantras can also help you strengthen your connection with your deepest sense of self, who is untouched by worldly chaos and drama. Connection with your “higher self” enables you to respond to darkness with light, and not more darkness (fear, rage, impatience, negativity, etc.).
Draw more joy into your relationships by being, thinking, and acting in joyful ways.
Here are ten mantras for happy relationships, accompanied by supporting thoughts to help you invite the presence of joy into every interaction. Print your favorite mantras out, write them down, put them in your phone, and look at them every day for a loving reminder to choose joy.
10 Mantras for Happy Relationships
Recognize the light.
We all have dark and light in us, but today I focus on the light in others and myself.
The battles I think I need to fight are ultimately fueled by my own mind that gives negativity a voice. Today I give light a voice. I give my light to someone else and encourage their own light to shine through the barriers they have created.
Looking for beauty and thus creating and perpetuating that beauty, instead of dwelling on what I think is wrong, is how I go about living a life worth living.
Peace over perfection.
I strive for love in my relationships, not superiority. I value being happy, not right. I prioritize peace, not perfection.
My relationships don’t have to be wonderful and shiny, adored by all who look upon them, but as honest and forgiving as possible. Forgiveness washes away the torment of trying to be perfect.
Bring love to life.
Instead of thinking that I can only be happy in a relationship, I focus on bringing love into my life.
Instead of resenting others for not bringing the love I think they owe me, I focus on the love I may have neglected to bring to an already unloving situation.
I am not a prisoner of bitterness any longer, because I take responsibility for what I bring to life. I am not a victim of uncomfortable circumstances, because I am bestowed with the capacity to bring love to life.
Truth needs no defense.
When I am defenseless and humble, I radiate love because I’m not trying to inflate myself to compensate for any perceived lack. In my defenseless lies my safety, because I know that in the spiritual realm, all is well and I am whole.
I remove the armor around my heart that keeps me separate from others. In doing so, I invite the truth of love to flow through me and into all my relationships.
Perceived problems disintegrate with love.
How can I respond to an unloving confrontation with love?
Contrary to popular belief, love is not weakness, but strength. When I bring love to the forefront, it’s easy to see that the issue at hand is stemming from fear. Fear takes many forms, and the showcase of love strips them all down so that I can see what’s really going on: someone is being led by doubt or shame, anxiety or grief, regret or resent, and ultimately their own suffering.
If I’m invited to someone’s drama, I can give their issue back to them with love, but without criticism. If I get heated, I recognize that’s a fear-filled reaction to someone’s fear; I’m only fueling what they’re sending my way. The only way to stop the darkness from seeping into my own soul is to show up with love–that means with compassion, understanding, patience, and peace.
Every challenge is an opportunity.
I know that I am not less-than if I do not subscribe to the beliefs of others, just as others are not less-than if they do not subscribe to my beliefs.
Our differences call for unity, not separation. We are more alike than we are unalike. We are born from the same love, made up of the same star stuff, and walk the same human path at the same time. My worth is recognized when I recognize the worth of my brothers and sisters.
Every challenge I encounter in my relationships is an opportunity to honor individuality, yet see past the illusion of separation and call on the love that lies beyond it.
There’s power in my response.
I am powerless over people’s expectations of me, but I am powerful in my response to their expectations. Their demands on my emotions and resources are not indicative of what I need do in response to these demands. I live my life not in a state of reaction, but in a state of freedom to peacefully choose my own course.
I am looking within for who I am and what brought me to this situation, rather than blaming others for how I feel and how I respond. I empower my response, and walk the path I have chosen, with gratitude.
Joy in me perpetuates joy.
When I first bless the world with my happiness, before I find a reason to, I am given so many reasons to rekindle my love for life.
I create a loving mental atmosphere within, and my environment responds to it.
When I empower myself, others are empowered too. Considering what I need and want (from a place of loving kindness and not in frustrated reaction to what others need and want) inspires others to focus on their own happiness, as well. Knowing what’s right for me empowers others to open their eyes to what’s best for them.
New thoughts create change.
To truly enjoy what I’m doing, in order to attract a more enjoyable experience, I must start thinking with a different belief system.
I change my thoughts to align with positive thinking wherever necessary. Life responds to positive energy with positive energy. I focus on how I can love my current situation, and I know I’m attracting another loving situation. I practice loving who I am, and I know I’m attracting more loving people around me.
Awareness breaks down barriers.
A deeper level of awareness can resolve conflict in any relationship.
If I want to connect with another person for the greatest potential for peace and joy, I must learn to connect first with my deepest sense of self. My level of true connection with myself–how aware I am of awareness itself, and how intimate I am with the joy of being–becomes the foundation for successful and genuinely happy relationships.
You may enjoy these 7 positive mantras for healthy relationships or these 9 mantras for keeping the peace in your relationships.
- Do you have any advice on creating and maintaining happy relationships?
- How do you remind yourself that your capacity for joy comes first from within, not from others?
- When has your decision to be happy instead of right changed the outcome/experience of an obstacle?
Please share your thoughts, lessons learned from your relationships, helpful insights on healing grievances, and any stories with me in the comments.
Share these mantras with someone who might appreciate them.
Carry a positive mindset with you into every interaction, and everyone will feel the difference.
Free watercolor clip art by Angie Makes; lettering by Aim Happy.