Since it’s the small things we do every day that make the biggest impact in our lives, here are a handful of little ways to make a happy home that you love, and feel loved in.
“How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” – Annie Dillard
Grow happiness at home, and it will follow you throughout your day. Home, after all, is where we’re meant to be ourselves, to be loved for all that we are, to plant seeds of kindness and to grow dreams, to build hope and to find comfort in life.
If home isn’t the serene place we’d like it to be right now, we know that we can plant tiny seeds of peace with each step. Peace begins within, and grows when we bring it into the world around us. We can find little ways to bring big love into even the darkest corners of our homes, one day at a time.
15 Little Ways to Grow a Happy Home
1. Wake up with an intention.
Before you get out of bed in the morning, set an intention for the day. Before you reach for your phone, repeat your positive intention, affirmation, or an encouraging sentence in your head and say it out loud.
State your mission for today.
You can set an intention for anything—to be kind to others, to set a good example for your children, to be patient with your new coworker, to be more loving to your significant other, or to prioritize the positive aspects of a situation.
2. Make your bed.
This simple habit generates momentum for the day. Making my bed makes me feel accomplished before I even start my day, and I can visually cross it off my mental checklist, which feels really good.
3. Clear clutter before you go.
Do your best not to leave a whirlwind of destruction behind you. Physical clutter has this sneaky tendency of getting in our heads. If you spend three minutes picking up after yourself before walking out the door, you may be opening the door to a more mentally clear day as a result. You’ll also return to a more calm and inviting home later.
4. Play your favorite music.
Fuel your day with positive energy by filling your home with your favorite tunes. Some days, it’s peaceful music that you might need. Other days, fun, upbeat songs are what will really drive your mood for the day.
Play music in the morning while you’re getting ready for work, and see if it helps manifest a good day.
5. Sing and dance more.
Skip down your hallway, sing in the shower, and hum your way through chores. Harness the innocent power of playfulness by singing and dancing around your house—you don’t have to be skilled at either to reap the benefits.
You’re essentially bringing a little burst of positive energy to your day, and this movement creates more opportunity for energy to keep flowing. Energy breeds energy.
6. Pay attention to people.
Life is about loving each other. Hug more. Share a good conversation. Time spent with family, friends, and sometimes even strangers isn’t wasted time if it’s time you vow to enjoy.
When you feel like you should be working or being more productive, challenge yourself to reconsider your definition of productivity. Interacting with others is perhaps the most productive use of your time. There’s a lot to learn from connecting with other minds; it’s how we stay receptive to new ideas and different ways of thinking.
7. Make their lives easier.
Treat others well, especially when they’re under your roof. If you want a happy home that vibrates with love, you must be that joy and that love, and you must bring it into the home.
Practice attentive listening, become a source of support, be a ray of light on their cloudy days, pack their lunch, leave a love note on the counter, and just try to get creative with how you show love in the small moments.
8. Never leave the house upset.
This is easier said than done, I know. But like anything, the more you consciously choose to practice this “house rule,” the easier it becomes.
This may require you to work on stress relief methods (like this one) in your relationships. This might mean you put disagreements aside for three minutes while you say goodbye with love and sincerity to the people who mean so much to you.
The truth is that you never know when you’ll see that person again. Bring love to each farewell. It makes a big difference.
9. Scatter meaningful mementos.
This is part of the process of savoring. Surround yourself with things (that you don’t necessarily have to buy) that bring a smile to your face and make you feel at home.
A favorite picture of a loved one or a pebble from your vacation will bring you back to that moment in time, one which elicits joy in your heart and thus makes that moment last longer in your mind.
10. Please the senses.
Invite more happiness into your home by paying attention to the details of sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch.
What can you do to bring pleasing aromas into your home? What brings you visual delight? What could you look at every day to make smiling more commonplace in your home? Can you bring a touch of Zen to your home office?
Place fresh-picked flowers in a vase on your counter. Use essential oils. Decorate your home with your favorite colors and textures, staying true to your own personality. Enjoy the sounds of nature. Speak kind words. Hug your housemates.
11. Create a happy space.
This can be a room, a corner of the room, a wall, or a window. Some people call it a “shrine.” I just call it “my happy place.” You can call it whatever you like.
Designate a space in your home that is completely dedicated to your happiness, love, peace, inspiration, and appreciation. Visit this space every day, or several times a day, as needed.
This is a place where you can breathe, relax, be at ease and be yourself. This is where your passions and interests and inspirations are collected in physical form, and where you keep visual reminders of what fuels your happiness. This is your safe haven.
12. Give yourself more time.
Get ready for bed earlier. Prepare for the next morning. What can you do tonight to make waking up easier tomorrow?
I find that the simple evening routine of taking out my spoon, mug, and honey for the next morning makes my morning that much easier. Tomorrow’s outfit is picked out and laid out. My lunch is packed.
Anything you can do to curb the feeling of being rushed is, in my opinion, worth doing.
13. Go to bed with gratitude.
Writing in a gratitude journal every night has been a key ingredient in my happiness. At the end of the day, I write down 3-5 things that I’m grateful for today. This trains your brain to look for, see, and remember the good parts of your day (and thus your life).
You can also repeat an affirmation for gratitude before you go to bed to bring you back to a happy home within yourself.
14. Fall asleep with wonder.
Contemplate your connection to something bigger than yourself. Whether this is done through prayer, meditation, a few written sentences or one thought, let yourself ponder the idea of more. You don’t have to be religious or spiritual. You just need to be willing to remember, for instance, how big the universe is to put things in perspective again.
It’s easier to fall asleep when you realize you’re part of something so great, that you don’t need to worry so much about how certain things will turn out.
15. Support healthy sleep.
Loads of research has proven the various benefits of getting enough sleep, such as supporting a good mood and fueling healthy eating habits. When I don’t get enough sleep, my happiness is much more elusive.
Learn to sleep in a dark space without electronic distractions. Stretch before you go to bed. Listen to calming, wordless music. Dab some lavender essential oil on your skin. Repeat a calming affirmation for peaceful sleep. Find what works for you by experimenting, and being patient with each experiment.
- Which of these practices do you, or would you like to, incorporate into your life?
- Is there anything you’d add to this list that helps you cultivate happiness at home?
- What do you do every day to make your life easier and more enjoyable?
Please share your ideas, insights, happy home ingredients, and any experiences with me in the comments.
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Always try to leave the world a better place than you found it.