In every ego-driven attempt to judge–someone else for their apparent shortcomings, the situation for what it’s lacking, or yourself for what you feel you’re lacking–the world becomes gloomy. Instead of darkening the day by pointing a finger, let’s try to judge less and love more. Let us then be happier as a result of this shift of perception.
“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.” – Nelson Mandela
I am a witness to my thoughts.
Judging someone else really doesn’t define who they are at all; it definitely defines the quality of your mind in that moment. It defines only your perspective. Instead of taking on the role of Judge and insinuating that things must be different in order to be right, become a witness to life as it is. This means observing without judgment and solely for the sake of learning.
We so often judge the whole puzzle by one piece. We do this to others, to ourselves, and to circumstances we find ourselves a part of. When we judge anything, we value separation over unity, competition over cooperation, conflict over peace, limitation over possibility, superficiality over depth and wholeness.
As Albert Einstein one said, “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” The more we understand ourselves and each other and the world we live in, the more we can learn to love it all with an appreciation that exceeds any misunderstanding, any perception, and any notion of “win-lose, right and wrong, good and bad.” In other words, we can move away from judgment by moving toward gratitude.
And remember that if we are to fully release judgment, we must also try not to judge others for judging.
I rise above.
Rise above the need to place judgment, blame, or guilt on anyone, for that’s a demand the ego has placed on you, and you’re so much more than that. By putting all judgment aside for a moment, you rise above the temptation of that moment. You bow to your Higher Self and not to the Ego.
The more time we spend judging, the less energy we have for loving. Love does not judge by the past, but accepts in the present. When you vow to live in this moment and to view the person only in the light of this moment, resentment dissolves and love rushes in. Picking out what’s wrong is exhausting; noticing what’s right is uplifting. Pointing out flaws is disheartening; recognizing what’s beautiful is enlightening.
When you feel the need to judge, repeat this mantra: “Extend love instead of passing judgment.”
My focus shifts…
When we shift our focus from searching for flaws, our eyes open to what’s beautiful. When we shift away from past mistakes and regrets, we shift into the possibility of the present moment. When we stop tallying our burdens, we give ourselves a chance to count our blessings. When we stop finding fault with things for what they’re not, we can celebrate them for what they are (or, at least, we can simply let them be). Sometimes, all it takes to experience happiness is a shift in thinking.
Another intriguing thought comes from Tina Zion when she said, “One of the secrets for a good life is to allow every single person around you to just be who they are.” Let it be. Let them be. Let yourself be happy. Happiness is closer when we prioritize love over hate, union over division.
The less we judge life, the more peaceful our world becomes. The less we judge others, the more time we have to love them and lift them. The less we judge ourselves, the more healing we are graced with. The less energy we expend on discerning who or what is right and wrong, the more energy we have to focus on what’s truly important in life.
Are you willing to release the need to judge others, the situation at hand, and yourself? Are you ready to judge less so that you can love more? What helps you stay humble and grateful? Please share your own thoughts, lessons, tips, or experiences with me in the comments.
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By releasing judgment, I make space to love.
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