If you want to know how to be happy again, first know that it’s possible. This (approximately) one-minute practice can help you shift out of a bad mood and into a more positive frame of mind, no matter the situation or circumstance you find yourself in.
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” – Steve Maraboli
The following feel-good practice was inspired by Gabrielle Bernstein’s video, which you can watch here. Personally, I’ve been practicing this in my own life for a little over a year now, and it’s become my most powerful tool for getting out of a negative state–whether I’m frustrated, angry, sad, or just plain stressed out.
Use this tool whenever you find yourself in a funk. Instead of carrying your bad mood around with you any longer, place this moment under your feet and use it as a stepping stone to rise above, let go, and move forward.
How to Be Happy Again in One Minute
The moment you see yourself in a bad mood, take a timeout. Whatever you’re holding and expressing right now–revenge, anger, impatience, self-doubt, self-pity, regret–there’s one antidote that can help you get back to happy: forgiveness.
In her video, Gabrielle says that if you’re resenting someone else, you’re really unconsciously resenting yourself for something. No matter your thoughts on this concept, turn your forgiveness back on yourself.
You’re not perfect, and neither is anyone else. Show yourself some grace. Forgiveness is divine, and it has the power to transform anything negative into something positive.
By forgiving yourself, you decide not to let pain or negativity define this moment or shape your future; you decide instead to let your life be defined by present awareness and future possibilities.
If you can’t get to the feeling of forgiving yourself, use the word willing. Here are some examples of how you could phrase your forgiveness:
I am willing to forgive myself for…
- … being in this bad mood.
- … what I just said.
- … having this judgmental thought.
- … being in attack mode.
- … having this unkind feeling.
- … letting my emotions get the best of me.
- … what I’m holding onto.
- … believing I’m anything less than beautiful/amazing.
- … not knowing what I didn’t know before I learned it.
- … messing up.
- … reliving, rehearsing, and re-analyzing past hurts and mistakes.
- … not knowing everything.
- … thinking I should know it all.
- … falling off track.
Gabrielle swears by this one-minute practice and attributes her success to the simple art of self-forgiveness. I, too, attribute much of my happiness, peace, and patience with this practice.
Anytime a bad mood threatens to disturb your peace or sabotage your happiness, return to this practice. Forgive yourself. Be willing to try. Bad moods happen; what matters is that you keep showing up for yourself in the moment, again and again.
Not to spoil the ending, but everything is going to be alright in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.
- How do you get out of a bad mood?
- What practices do you have in place for finding peace in stressful moments?
- Are you willing to forgive yourself?
Please share your own thoughts, experiences, and insights in the comments. Let me know how this practice works for you.
If you think you might know someone who’s wondering how to be happy again, share this post with them. It might be exactly what they need.
Forgiveness always leads to freedom.
Flower art by Summer–Moon; lettering by Aim Happy.