Even if your whole world seems upset, you can maintain a sense of inner calm and peace of mind. This is something we all want, but it requires practice.
“Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.” – Wayne Dyer
Real wealth is peace of mind, which has little to do with what life throws at us, and a lot to do with what we focus on. When you stop trying to change others, you empower yourself. When you choose not to be a victim of your circumstances, you become an advocate for peace of mind, happiness, and love.
The following are a few things I’ve learned from my difficult situations, the concepts that helped me move through trying times with more strength, gratitude, and grace.
Discovering Peace of Mind in Tough Times
“A mind at peace, a mind centered and not focused on harming others, is stronger than any physical force in the universe.” – Wayne Dyer
You can find peace of mind through forgiveness, but not through judgment. Forgiveness is mainly given not because the other deserves it, but because you deserve to be at peace within yourself.
If someone betrays you, choose not to betray your inner peace. Rather than letting unpleasantness seep into your soul, focus on extending your peace outward.
“The things that trouble our spirits are within us already. In meditation, we must face them, accept them, and set them aside one by one.” – Christopher L. Bennett
Ease your expectations and practice acceptance in all things. Be present with life’s lessons, for there is always a silver lining and a teaching to be learned.
Life is not obligated to give you exactly what you expect, hope for, or think is best. Our desire for peace of mind isn’t usually fulfilled in the manner we planned, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t teaching us exactly what we need to get to where we ultimately want to be.
Each moment is a fresh opportunity to find beauty in the natural progression of things. When you feel knocked down, the lesson–in one form or another–is always to get back up.
“True and lasting inner peace can never be found in external things. It can only be found within. And then, once we find and nurture it with ourselves, it radiates outward.” – Buddha
Peace comes from within, and by nurturing it with ourselves–rather than seeking it without–we can truly know what it means to be at peace with life, no matter what it looks like in the moment.
To be able to bring peace to the situation, we need to be present with the situation. As Virginia Woolf said, “You cannot find peace by avoiding life.” We must actively partake in life and show up for the moment with a conscious mind in order to have peace of mind.
Whether it’s a hard lesson, a beautiful vision, or the realization that you’re strong enough to survive this storm, stay with it.
“Choose your thoughts carefully. Keep what brings you peace, release what brings you suffering. And know that happiness is just a thought away.” – Nishan Panwar
It’s so important to honor the moment by being fully present in it. Through your presence and self-awareness, it’s easier to recognize the energy-drainers and the happiness-supporters. It’s vital to your peace of mind to distance yourself from the negativity, to walk away from the drama and remove yourself from the situation if necessary.
Sometimes, we need to distance ourselves to gain clarity. I find it helpful to take a hiatus from the small things that I know in my heart to be inessential to my well-being and counterproductive to my peace.
Try stepping back and observing yourself as you experience the moment. Be present with a wider perspective of the bigger picture.
When you distance yourself from the insignificant details, drama, and negativity, you will realize that there is distance between you and what you’re going through; you’re more than what you’re going through. Whatever is troubling you does not wholly constitute who you are. You may be experiencing pain, but you are not that pain.
“Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and the thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see the greatness within you even when you don’t see it in yourself.” – Edmund Lee
Positive energy, like negative energy, is contagious. Be mindful of who and what you surround yourself with. Just as it’s vital to distance yourself from the negativity, it’s absolutely essential that you immerse yourself in positivity.
Surround yourself with people that vibrate at a higher frequency, people who lift you higher and inspire you to be the best version of yourself. These are people you can trust and open up to and receive supportive feedback from when you need it most.
No one can solve your problems for you or save you from them, but they can remind you that you’re not alone and you’re worthy of happiness.
“The great thing in this world is not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are moving.” – Oliver Wendell Holmes
Focus more intently on where you’re going than where you’ve been.
If you concentrate on what you’re not supposed to be doing, it tends to consume your thoughts. Instead of focusing on moving away from what you don’t want, meditate on positive movement toward something you do want.
You are a story in progress. Life is a constant ebb and flow of dark and light. Look for the stars in every dark moment. Look for the beginning in every ending. Look for the meaning in the mundane and the opportunity in the struggle.
“Healing takes time. Like a small garden in the soul you plant the seeds, and with a little care, sunlight and patience, you watch them grow.” – Beau Taplin
It’s okay to go slow.
Give yourself time. Don’t rush through the healing process and don’t let others push you through it, either. Moving through something difficult takes some time, and it requires patience on your part.
Practicing patience helps you see past the raw emotion of this moment and realize that you’re capable of being more than the chaos. There is resilience in you. You don’t need to fight or defend anything to prove it. You can be the calm center in the storm.
Take this time to listen to yourself and understand yourself. Sometimes things must unfold in their own time, and us trying to force it or rush it only hinders the natural and necessary process of things.
- How do you find peace of mind in tough times?
- What has helped you grow through difficult experiences and rise above the situation?
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As Marianne Williamson says: “Inner peace doesn’t come from getting what we want, but from remembering who we are.”
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