Feeling down might show up for any reason or no apparent reason at all, but it’s something we’re all familiar with. Letting go of these three beliefs, I believe, will help you to feel better about whatever is coming up for you.
“Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” – Marilyn Monroe
If you’re feeling down today, I hope any one of these concepts speaks to you. You might feel better immediately. You might feel better gradually. You might even allow yourself to feel however you’re feeling right now, knowing that this too shall pass and perhaps it’s a necessary catalyst for something far better.
If You’re Feeling Down, Try Letting Go of These Beliefs
1. It’s not okay to not be okay.
When we’re unhappy about being unhappy, stressed out about being stressed out, tired of being tired… we only amplify the initial pain. We intuitively know this is not a solution, but we habitually do this.
Deciding to be okay with not being okay is a decision that’s made over and over again–it’s a habit, too.
We don’t have to feel bad for feeling bad–we can just recognize the feeling and let it be there. Looking at our judgemental attitude without more judgment gives the attitude/emotion some space, instead of letting it fester and control us. The space we put between ourselves and emotion gives us a chance to recognize that we’re not the emotion, but the awareness of it.
We are not our experiences; we are the ones experiencing the experiences.
It’s not always going to be okay, and that’s okay. Just remember this: if it’s not okay, it’s not the end. Let yourself be human.
2. There’s somewhere else I’m supposed to be.
In Eckhart Tolle’s insightful book, A New Earth, he reminds us of something we’re so soon to forget when we’re feeling down: “Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.”
When we add the battles of yesterday and the threats of tomorrow, all we get is war inside. If war is what we want, then that is what life will be for us. Yet, by prioritizing the present moment, we’re telling the universe that we would like peace instead. We want peace, and that is what life can be for us.
There’s only one place you’re supposed to be right now: the present moment. You’re not meant to be anywhere else, experiencing something else with someone else, because here is where you are. Wherever you are, there you are.
The present moment is often confused with what’s happening, but what’s happening is always changing and the present moment is changeless. We can experience the peace of the present without attachment to what’s happening around us. Since what happens is the most unstable thing in the universe, remember this: There is a stable world within.
This emotion will pass by, as everything does. You can, however, cultivate an invincible state of internal peace that is changeless, because there’s part of you that is changeless. In this sense, you’re not cultivating this space, but remembering it’s who you are.
To quote A Course in Miracles, “There is a way of living in the world that is not here, although it seems to be…”
3. Only an extraordinary event or a miraculous change will bring joy.
Realize that the little things hold the biggest potential for experiencing true joy. Why? We cannot be dependent on what happens (the most unstable thing) for our happiness, unless we want to be consistently unhappy. The timeless, formless joy within does not come through time-sensitive conditions nor form by way of people, places, events, or things.
The path to a truly fulfilling existence is actually through awareness of the beauty of the little things.
Awareness allows for that space between the experience and the experiencer. Awareness is a changeless, formless dimension within that recognizes–without thinking about it–that there is a pause between a stimulus and response, there is distance between an event and what happens inside. When we are aware, we’re experiencing the joy of living.
The little things make the best happiness because of their simplicity in form; they leave room for awareness without overtaking us with thought.
The tiny miracles that happen in rather ordinary moments are just as powerful as the life-changing events that we read about happening to others. As A Course in Miracles states, there is no order of difficulty in miracles, as they are each full expressions of the love from which they were born.
The small right actions we take lead to beautiful places. Success is the result of lots of little right actions, steps taken one day at a time. Paying attention to the small things in life will gradually awaken us to the breathtaking things. We might even realize that the most breathtaking experiences are the subtle shifts that happen inside, and not outside.
The world changes when we focus on the beauty of the most “trivial” things, even if we don’t feel okay in this moment.
Please share your thoughts, helpful insights, healing lessons, setbacks you’ve encountered, comebacks you’ve made, and any stories with me in the comments.
Share this with someone who could use a little lift today.
You are not alone, and it’s all going to be okay.