This affirmation is about surrendering the outcome so we can be at peace in this moment, for this moment is where life is. I know that when I release the need to control the outcome, I can enjoy the process and do my best.
“It’s not a matter of letting go—you would if you could. Instead of ‘Let it go,’ we should probably say ‘Let it be.’” – Jon Kabat-Zinn
Life is a dance between control and surrender, holding on and letting go, working hard and relaxing, learning how to live in the world and rising above it. When we don’t know how to let go, we can practice letting it be how it is, without forcing upon life our idea of how it should be.
Here’s one example of what I mean: I released my need to control how this blog post was going to turn out, and as a result I was able to enjoy the process of writing everything you’re about to read… and my joy is now able to shine through with more intensity.
I’m also just able to relax by changing how I look at things, which is really nice. I get to change how I live, and that’s everything.
Release the Need to Control the Outcome
What I resist persists and expends my energy. I instead use my energy to open up to alternate possibilities, and a new way of living.
Surrendering is not giving up, but giving it up. It may be the need to have control over the big things in life, and even the little things. It’s all about being in a state of freedom, and not allowing external events, beliefs, and behaviors to be permanently responsible for your peace and quality of life.
Surrender doesn’t mean we diminish our power to do anything about our circumstances; it enhances our ability to ignite positive change. Through surrender we can get into the position to take positive action, instead of negative action, which is taken out of frustration, anger, distrust, and disgust.
Know what you want and then surrender to what already is, to what has happened before, and to what might be. Trust that life will somehow guide you and show you the way. You still do your best, but you don’t do so from a place of resisting how life is in the first place.
Let life surprise you with its magic so you can live with no worries, experiencing the joy of each moment.
Keep your dreams, but surrender the one thing you don’t have and don’t need to have: control. What will happen to you is beyond you. What happens within you is your power, and that’s the power you amplify when you release the need to control what happens to you.
Allow Change to Happen for You
When I surrender my expectations, I allow life to happen for me, rather than just to me.
The need for things to be anything other than what they are in this very moment is nothing more than a worry, a fear. When we fear that life is wrong, how can we possibly enjoy the process with full presence and appreciation?
Peace of mind arrives the moment you come to peace with what’s on your mind. It’s what’s left over after the attachments and hard beliefs–the “shoulds,” and the “coulds”–soften and dissolve.
This acceptance of the way things are creates the foundation for inner harmony. It connects us to that place that deeply knows that we don’t really need more; we just need to appreciate what we have right now. It’s funny, how appreciating what we do have opens us up to experiencing, and enjoying, more.
By being thankful for what hasn’t happened yet, you send an invitation for change to come–the kind of change that you see as happening for you. It means there are so many possibilities available that have yet to appear, and countless things you don’t yet understand. This is beautiful, if you think so.
In what you don’t understand, there is room for growth and space for joy. This is so only if you stay open to it all, even if it doesn’t suit your ego.
Obsessing over outcomes only exacerbates our anxiety and makes us feel hopeless. Things happen for us, and not just to us, when we give them space to grow into what they might be. With some things, it takes time and lots of love for them to go from seeming negative to being something helpful, and even beautiful, in the long run.
Allow and receive. Soften your attachments and strengthen your receptivity. See how your attachment is making you feel, and see how it might be blocking you from enjoying the process that is life, the journey that is you.
Enjoy the Process, Which Is Your Life
I let go of how I think life should be, and I embrace it for what it is and for what it gives: Life.
When we release our attachments to how we think life should be, and welcome change as a force for good, we’re free to stop feeling stuck in a rut and invoke the creativity of the universe.
Feeling stuck is really just the disconnection from the fact that life is constantly changing. This element of change is what makes life interesting, creative, and new.
We can close our eyes to that truth, or we can invite a new perspective that keeps us present and aware of all the tiny miracles being strung together to make life new all the time, and outside of time.
Your life becomes dynamic when you recognize it as an ever-evolving state of inner awareness. It’s a process, yet it’s always happening right now, in this moment. It’s always “right here, right now.” You can think about the past and dream about the future, yet even that happens in the present moment.
How you experience this moment is how you experience your life.
With less anxiety about the unknown, you can enjoy the process that is your life. With less fear that life is wrong, you can experience gratitude for knowing what it feels like to be alive. Where resistance stifles creativity, trust opens the gates for life to flow more naturally.
Inside us all, two forces contend: one that fears life, and one that welcomes it. Encourage the force that welcomes life, and joy will be the tiny miracle you see everywhere.
- Are you obsessed over an outcome, fixated on someone doing something how you want, or attached to life happening in the time frame you’re comfortable with?
- How is any particular attachment making you feel?
- Are you willing to let life be what it is, and let people be who they are, so it all can happen for you, rather than to you?
Please share your thoughts, lessons about surrendering for peace, positive practices that help you rise above fear, and any inspiring stories of trust and joy with me in the comments.
Share this affirmation with someone whose life is worth enjoying.
What would happen if we changed the way we see the world? We would know what a miracle really is.
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