If I could tell my twelve-year-old self anything, I’m sure that the words “believe in your dreams” would pour from my lips. Today I’m celebrating the dreams we’re all capable of living and the people we’re capable of growing into.
“And did you get what / you wanted from this life, even so? / I did. / And what did you want? / To call myself beloved, to feel myself / beloved on the earth.” — Raymond Carver, Late Fragment
It’s important to note that you wouldn’t be reading this if it wasn’t for adversity…
Today, one of my childhood dreams came true and I can officially say that I am a published author!
Wow. It’s just crazy. Thank you.
I am incredibly grateful for every single person who has helped me grow into the person I am today, and that includes you.
You being here means everything, and your presence and support is what brought me to this opportunity. For that, thank you.
It’s such a joy to write this…
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It Starts with a Dream… or a Crushing Disappointment.
Sometimes it starts with a dream and is followed up with your world falling apart, or vice versa.
I’m talking about what the poet Raymond Carver wrote in his last poem before his death, which also appears on his gravestone: “And did you get what you wanted from this life, even so?”
It’s that “even so” bit that speaks volumes.
We cannot sincerely celebrate our potential for growth without also paying homage to our potential to heal from what we thought we’d never survive. We cannot celebrate our ability to shine without, too, offering a tribute to the darkness.Dream above your circumstances. Stars don't stop shining when you can't see them. tell a friend
After my brother Mark’s passing, my world fell apart. I didn’t feel so whole and worthy on the inside to begin with, but this shattered me into pieces that I spent years picking back up.
The truth is that if it weren’t for my heart being split open like it was, I may not have returned to my dream of being an author with quite as much fervor. My brother is the reason why I write about what I do.
Without a shattered and lost heart, I may not have discovered the courage to build my life better than before.
Without tragedy and pain that no words could properly describe, I may not have grown the courage to express who I always felt myself to be.
We don’t always get to live the lives we had planned for ourselves. Something terrible or terribly wonderful happens and we’re left speechless, shattered by overwhelming life or death.
The good news is that we might leave some pieces behind that never fit us anyway, and we might find new pieces to pick up that make us feel whole and worthy like we never could before.
Our dreams tend to get dimmed by adversity, but that doesn’t have to be the case. Interrupted or destroyed plans might move you in a new direction and though you may not be grateful for what caused the heartache, you can give yourself credit for the new path you’ve chosen.
Believe in Your Dreams. You Have Them for a Reason.
“Even so,” dream.
Dad always said to keep smiling, so when he passed, I did my best. And I continued writing because I knew my “why.”
All of this is to say that I really think you should keep your dreams alive, because they’ve been seeded in your heart for a reason. You might figure out the reason later on down the road, but if you do something every day to contribute to that sense of aliveness, you will figure it out.
And if you’ve been waiting for some magical, perfect day in the future to do something about the flame inside of you, please stop doing that and start doing something—anything.When it comes to turning the invisible into the visible, believing in the positive possibilities that exist is the best place to start. tell a friend
Also, not everyone is going to believe in your dreams, but your job is not to convince everyone around you that your mission is worthwhile (or that you’re worthwhile).
It’s your job to believe in your dreams (and yourself).
Know that, no matter what you’ve been through, your potential to heal, grow, and shine cannot be taken from you.
It’s actually probably because of the adversity we’ve faced, and will face, that we know what it’s like to rise up again and shine our light like we’ve never been able to before.
Let me know:
What dreams are you ready to believe in again, or for the first time?
Share your dreams, setbacks, discoveries, and any stories of growth with me in the comments.
Share this message with a friend who has dreams they’re worthy of living (or just really needs to sleep).
Don’t let your current circumstances or a dark past make you forget about your light. Keep dreaming.