This is an affirmation to be honest with yourself and where you stand right now–before you move on to later steps in healing or happiness that you’re truly not ready for yet. None of us can successfully skip any step in healing our hurts.
“The cleanest way to live as a human being and as an artist is to be true to yourself and always honest.” – Emma Watson
Be Honest with Yourself about Where You Stand
I live in my truth by feeling my feelings and getting honest about my discomfort.
I think people live in the most beautiful way when they’re being truly honest with themselves about how they’re living right now. Our genuine happiness and sustainable healing lies in our willingness to face how we feel, whether we like what we see or not.
The phrase “You need to feel it to heal it” is so incredibly accurate.
Telling the truth about where you are and what you’re experiencing right now, although you may want it to just be healed already, is necessary for healing it. Being real about what you’re going through is how you come out of the turmoil and grow.
You cannot escape the turmoil until you acknowledge it’s there.
Make sure not to miss that step of going into the depths of how you feel. It can be difficult to face the darkness of discomfort and actually move through the pain, but don’t skip this step in healing your hurts.
When we need to forgive or let go of the pain attached to other people or our past, we want to be careful not to pretend that we’re over it before we are. We may be using our spiritual practice or affirmations, for instance, to get over the actual work of feeling the experience, and thus healing the experience.
You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to let yourself be honest about how you feel about the problem.
If you’re hurt, recognize you’re hurt and have that emotion come forward. Say, “I feel uncomfortable” or “I am scared” or “I am doubtful” or “I’m not over this yet.” Expressing your truth is how everything begins to shift.
“This is how I feel” can change a relationship forever, in a very healthy way. In that genuine authenticity, you’re already experiencing the transformation you need to enter into the next step. Then you can forgive.
Your Honesty Frees You
In and through that honesty, I will be set free in so many ways.
Of course deep down we want to think higher thoughts and we want to feel better, but we cannot avoid how we really feel or jump into forgiveness before we’re ready. That would make for partial forgiveness, which isn’t real. For an absolute healing experience, we must honor each step fully, with clarity and compassion.
When you affirm to be honest with yourself first with this step (acknowledging where you stand), all other affirmations will have a chance to actually work.
Your later steps in healing, which might include affirmations for acceptance and forgiveness, must come later. They cannot come before you’re ready. But when you’re honestly ready to get there, it will be a much more miraculous experience.
You will move forward into peace by moving through your truth–through the feelings you really feel and the thoughts you’re really thinking. Doing so will set you free, because you will enjoy the freedom of experiencing inner peace, untouched by lingering emotions that haven’t had the opportunity to come forth.
All your work–inner work and any form of work in the world–benefits from your transparent introspection.
These are some ways in which your honesty will free you:
- Honesty about where your weaknesses lie opens the door to use your strengths wisely.
- Honesty with yourself about what you want makes you less vulnerable to the coercion of what others want when it’s not healthy or right for you.
- Approaching internal issues openly gives you a much better chance at a strong, healthy relationship with yourself and the ones you love.
- You get to know yourself better.
- Your authenticity supports transparency, which allows you to see with more clarity the positive possibilities for you to live a life that feels good for you.
- You are able to better acknowledge when you need help, and you strengthen the humble confidence to ask for the help you need.
- The more clear you are with your emotions, the less they control you and the more love, respect, and faith you can put into your decisions.
- Any inner turmoil, resentment, shame, and guilt is gently lightened because you’re not running away from or letting these fester. The more you approach yourself in the light of honest truth, you get better at doing so from a place of loving kindness because you know it will lead you to a more joyful state of mind (which benefits all).
- Honesty gives you the chance to grow. You only really start to grow when you can be honest with who you are and what you’re harboring in the first place.
In short, a firm commitment to your truth is so supportive of your peace of mind, and that alone is enough reason to be honest with yourself.
The reward for your authenticity is nothing short of a beautiful connection with yourself, and everyone and everything else.
- What have you learned about and by being honest with yourself?
- What are your clues that you need to be honest with yourself about how you’re living?
- How has your honesty spurred healing and growth?
Please share your thoughts, helpful insights, lessons learned on your journey, and any stories with me in the comments.
Share this affirmation with someone you care about.
Honor what’s inside.
Free watercolor texture by Lost and Taken; lettering by Aim Happy.