Be good to yourself, because the love you harbor becomes a guiding light for others to do the same; you brighten the world inside and out.
“You will be with you longer than anyone else on the planet so make it a good relationship.” – Louise Hay
Be Good to Yourself, and You Brighten the World
By being good to myself, I contribute a more powerful presence of goodness to the world around me.
We create experiences over and over because they mirror something we believe about ourselves. When I think about it, people can only hurt me when they say something I also, deep down, believe about myself. If I started to believe in my own inherent worth solely because I’m alive and here–and thus everyone’s worth because they’re alive and here–then I might have no need to defend and only cause for love.
If I am good to myself, I become a conduit for love in every encounter with the world. Since I get what I give, and the amount of love I receive is intrinsically tied to the love I give, I don’t have to decide between being good to myself and being good to others–it’s one and the same. When I treat myself kindly, I am more inclined to be kind to others, and so it is in every aspect of love.
My self-compassion and my self-forgiveness cannot help but extend, because that is the purpose of love, which is the basis for compassion and forgiveness, as well as acceptance, joy, patience, and gratitude.
This I’ve learned: Being good to others is a way of being good to yourself, and being good to yourself is a way of being good to others. By choosing to be good to yourself, you lead by example and encourage others to be good and true to themselves, too.
Identify Yourself with Supportive Beliefs
I detach from negativity and instead identify myself with positive, supportive beliefs about who I am and can be.
If I believe inside that I am unworthy of happiness, my belief manifests in a whole host of unhappy experiences (and vice versa). This belief, however, isn’t really the truth of who I am. The negative beliefs I associate with are actually the clever workings of the ego, that unconscious part of me that isn’t me at all.
When I unconsciously associate myself with any small thoughts of doubt, insecurity, and insignificance, I unknowingly feed the perception that I’m my own worst enemy, and I treat myself as such.
As soon as I see what the ego is doing (i.e. posing as my friend, meanwhile making sure I’m miserable), I make the unconscious conscious, and thus the ego begins to fade into the background. I don’t have to fear the self-loathing beliefs, or even the self-destructive patterns that arose from them, because they just represent a case of mistaken identity.
Through the light of awareness, I see all the ways I’ve been hooked into my own limiting self-talk, and I choose to see it as a mistake.
It’s my responsibility alone to face those fears that keep me from being free, to confront those worrisome thoughts that keep me down, and to detach myself from anything that doesn’t contribute to a loving identity. Others cannot free me from myself; this is my task, and it is an honorable mission. My mission now is to become who I’m meant to be, which is my own best friend.
Though the world might try to convince me that being myself isn’t good enough, nothing could be further from the truth. Being myself is exactly my mission, and being good to myself is how I go about getting there.
Talk to Yourself Like You Love Yourself
I replace self-limiting self-talk with positive declarations of my potential.
I can transform any resistance toward loving myself into acceptance, and finally freedom, through the positive self-talk I engage in each day. I can practice self-acceptance, and thus attract acceptance in others. I can cultivate the belief that I’m lovable, and thus attract the love I wish to receive. By sending myself compassion, I’m not the only one who benefits, either–everyone around me can feel the love.
The following self-affirming statements are examples of how you can be good to yourself through the power of positive thinking:
I am learning to let go of whatever beliefs once convinced me that I’m not good enough.
I am willing to look at all the ways I’ve judged others and myself, without more judgment.
I vow to do my best not to create drama or feed into the negativity.
I can be kind to others without sacrificing my own needs.
My loving-kindness is only true when it extends full circle, and finds me again.
I don’t withhold love from myself, because that is not to know love’s true purpose.
I take responsibility for my choices, and if I ever find myself at war with and in myself, I can simply choose again.
I am worth the time I spend on my healing and growth.
I give thanks for the blessing of being alive as I am, because life in this moment is a gift, and tomorrow is not promised.
I believe in my ability to figure things out.
I prioritize my comebacks over my missteps, and my forgiveness sets me free to try again, this time with newfound wisdom.
My value does not decrease based on someone’s inability to see my true worth.
I am unshakable in the belief that I can become who I’m meant to be.
I am in the process of positive change, and the best way to do it is to love my way through it.
I choose to embrace my flaws and turn them into something that can serve the world.
I am only having the human experience for a short while, so I will embrace the imperfections that come with the territory.
I transcend my negative self-talk by recognizing that it’s not my truth speaking.
I identify myself with loving thoughts, kind gestures, healthy attitudes, and positive patterns.
- What small shows of love and respect can you offer yourself today?
- When has your self-compassion, and self-acceptance, fueled positive growth and peace?
- When has the love you’ve shown yourself became the love you showed others?
- What does being good to yourself look like?
Please share your thoughts, words of encouragement, helpful practices that keep you connected to joy, and any stories with me in the comments.
Share this affirmation with someone who is worthy of their own loving attention.
Be good to yourself, because I assure you that if you’re alive and breathing, and your heart is beating, then you’re supposed to be here just the way you are.
Free watercolor texture by Gold and Berry; lettering by Aim Happy.