To love unconditionally means to love wholly and completely without expecting anything in return. Let’s practice giving unconditional love today, because to give love without expectation is a joyful act of gratitude that ultimately gifts both the giver and the receiver.
“The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.” – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Giving Benefits Everyone
Today, I give without expectation.
Genuine, unconditional giving really does give to all. Research studies show that giving makes us happy, is good for our health, promotes cooperation and social connection, evokes gratitude, and it’s contagious. Whether you’re on the giving or receiving end of a gift (material or otherwise) the illusion of separation dissolves and is replaced by a feeling of oneness with the other person. This is a sign that love has entered where fear used to be.
When you give from a sincere place of love and gratitude, you’re actually telling the universe that you’re ready to work with the flow of life instead of against it. You’re signalling to the universe that you prioritize peace over accumulation, and so you’re replacing fear with love because you trust that everything is happening around you, for your highest good, and you’re truly taken care of.
When you’ve given unconditionally, it means you’ve given up the notion that giving means losing; you’ve adopted the belief that giving means receiving. What goes around comes around, and what we give will eventually come back to us in one way or another. Repeat this affirmation for adopting an abundance mindset, which might help you drop the belief that there’s not enough of X, Y, or Z to go around.
Give the Gift of Unconditional Love
May I remember that servings others means service to all.
When your offering is unconditional and planted in love, what you give is given back to you. So, give without fear of not getting anything in return. Give without fear of rejection, of not having that love reciprocated, or of having your gift go unnoticed or unappreciated. To do any of these things is to give in order to gain. We must each remember to give for the sake of giving itself, for only then will we remember that this is our natural inclination.
Marianne Williamson, author of A Return to Love, offers up the possibility that everything is either an act of love, or a call for love. When something or someone threatens to shake my happiness, I’m grounded by this thought, and so I’ve adopted this belief and remember it often. I am the owner of my happiness, and viewing painful external events and behaviors as pleas for love energizes me to give my love, not my misery, in return.
If you’ve given something away–love, money, energy, time–and become disappointed in any way by the outcome, ask yourself why. Did you really give without expecting something to be given to you? Did you have any underlying intentions, whether you were conscious of them at the time or not? Can you give unconditionally? Can you try?
Disappointment often reveals to us a deeper call for love. To give unconditionally is truly a shining example of, and lesson in, unconditional love. Conditional giving is a call for love. Practice self-awareness and sit with your feelings, your questions, and your answers. Notice what comes up. What is your disappointment trying to tell you? What are you afraid to lose, and why?
Service is not about giving or receiving, but about stepping into the divine love that knows no limits or obstacles. It’s about entering the awesome state of oneness with all. Giving is a sign of gratitude for what you have and for this opportunity that life has planted in your path.
Here are seven random acts of kindness to try, for no reason other than to be kind (and happy).
Are you willing to adopt the mindset that giving is receiving? Can you practice forgiveness and generosity without gripping your expectations in the other hand? Do you have any ideas or stories of kindness to share? Please share your thoughts, lessons, practices, and experiences with me in the comments.
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Serving others serves your own soul. Give all your love without reserve, for the pure joy of giving it, and happiness will rise to the surface. This love never leaves you.
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