To forgive anything–whether it’s another person, yourself, or how life has turned out–is a divine intervention. Forgiving yourself means that you’re willing to show up in your own life from a place of love, so that you can better serve love. Repeat this affirmation whenever you need some divine intervention.
“Forgive yourself first. Release the need to replay a negative situation over and over again in your mind. Don’t become a hostage to your past by always reviewing and reliving your mistakes. Don’t remind yourself of what should have, could have or would have been. Release it and let it go. Move on.” – Les Brown
Forgiving Yourself Is a Gift to All
My forgiveness is only complete when it comes full circle: when it includes myself.
Sometimes, it’s easier to show others love than it is to show ourselves love. We don’t need to wait to love ourselves first before we show others love. Yet, when our love is complete and totally unconditional (meaning we’re willing to love everyone, including ourselves) it tends to be more genuine and wholehearted.
What you are inside finds its way outside. It’s a beautiful thing when you’re able to offer yourself forgiveness and compassion, for that love extends of itself. That inner love becomes an outpouring of love, and not a struggle. Forgiving yourself makes forgiving others easier, and more accessible, because forgiveness is love and the nature of love is extension–it grows when it’s given.
When we know our own forgiveness, we experience how good it feels on both sides–we are both forgiving and forgiven. You are again filled with the love that you already are. You become better able to serve love to the world around you, because you are that love. The good feeling that forgiveness brings isn’t limited to just you, it just begins with you.
In this way, forgiving yourself is not selfish. It becomes the best gift you can give others, too.
Let Go and Love
My mistakes are merely lessons.
This brings to mind Mahatma Gandhi’s notion of being truly free: “Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.” If we set our past free and set our future free, we free ourselves to truly engage with this moment and this day from a place of love and gratitude for what we’ve been blessed with.
Your life is your gift, and it’s up to you how you choose to live right now. It is when you recognize that forgiving yourself will set you free, that you will understand your own power to transform darkness into light. You can transform any moment into a grateful, meaningful moment.
Affirm to willingly release any negative beliefs you have about yourself, any small thoughts of regret or shame. Be willing to instead see yourself with love, forgiving yourself with an open heart and a kind mind. Be gentle with your mistakes, because not only do we all make mistakes, but we are supposed to make mistakes.
Life was never meant to be perfectly uninterrupted by daily lessons and powerful teachings. Our stumbles are guides to lead us in the direction of happier, more fulfilled, more peaceful and appreciative lives. Without mistakes, how would we learn? Without learning, how would we grow? Without growth, how would we understand the depths of our own ability to live a full life?
There is so much beauty in imperfection.
Forgive yourself for your past mistakes, and those mistakes cannot define you any longer. Forgive yourself for your anxieties about the future, and those worries hold no power over your present. In order to be truly present, with nothing to pull you away from your gratitude for this moment, you must forgive everything. You must break free from your own chains of self-doubt and self-hate. Only then can you truly enjoy the life you’ve been given.
Forgiveness Is a Miracle
I send love and compassion in my direction, so that I can better serve love from a peaceful place.
Forgiving yourself is an act of great love. In fact, it’s a miracle. Your willingness alone opens the door to a more miraculous experience, and a happier life. For, as A Course in Miracles teaches, a miracle is simply a shift in perception. Simple, yet powerful enough to change everything.
Know that you’re worthy of love because you are a part of this love. Wondering if you are Love is like the ocean wondering if it is water. You are worthy of your own forgiveness because forgiveness is your task here. You are here to create, not destroy. You are here to let go of bitterness and forgive, so that you can love and become more of who you are meant to be.
Know, also, that you can always choose again. When mistakes happen, forgiveness can happen. Only when we become willing to shift our perception on how we think life “should” be, can we open our eyes to the miracle that life is. Choose again to see with new eyes, and recognize that not only did you experience a miracle, but you invited that miracle into your life.
Be generous with your love, and your life will respond.
- Did any thought in this post inspire you today?
- How has forgiving yourself changed your life, in big or small ways?
- In what ways (or areas of your life) do you think you could be more kind, loving, and accepting towards yourself?
Please share your own loving thoughts, any advice, and anything that has helped you forgive yourself wholeheartedly.
Share this affirmation with someone you care about, someone who is worthy of their own forgiveness and love.
Your life is a miracle, because you have decided to wake up and live more fully in the light of love.
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