Try to be happy for this moment (because this moment is your life), but if you can’t enjoy what’s happening or what you’re doing, try even harder to accept what is. Acceptance of the present moment elicits a certain peace, and brings consciousness to life—with that, we contribute something new to this experience.
“Performing an action in the state of acceptance means you are at peace while you do it… On the surface, acceptance looks like a passive state, but in reality it is active and creative because it brings something entirely new into this world. That peace, that subtle energy vibration, is consciousness, and one of the ways in which it enters this world is through surrendered action, one aspect of which is acceptance.” – Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth
Accept What Is, with a Little Forgiveness
I welcome this moment as if I had chosen it; I do what is required of me, willingly.
When we can’t do something with joy, we can at least try to accept what is required of us in this moment. For now, we can accept what is and work with it instead of fighting against the present-moment reality.
Acceptance is easier when we honor that not all things must happen in the order we had planned—that’s the spirit of forgiveness, and it makes life so much easier.
As I write this, my day isn’t happening as I had planned it. Right in the middle of my peaceful day of writing, interruption happened. I started to get angry, frustrated, annoyed, impatient, stressed out… I was complaining, in thought and speech (and no one was even around to hear me!).
What we whisper to ourselves every day has the power to empower, or destroy.
In this case, I was destroying my own peace, and I didn’t need to. Thankfully, I am quicker to recognize that now, so I turned it around. I reminded myself (as I often do) that things don’t need to happen according to my plans in order to work out exactly like they need to.
I don’t enjoy daily interruptions, but I also need those interruptions to remind me that it’s really all going to be okay. They test my patience, and I need that so I can strengthen my patience muscles, so I can handle the big things with more grace.
If I view them a little differently, I can see disappointments as opportunities to connect, grow, and gather inspiration for future projects.
Whatever the situation is, it’s requiring us to do (or not do) something. If we resist what is, we suffer. If we accept what is, we prosper. Acceptance brings peace; it’s a form of forgiveness. When we forgive the moment for not being what we thought it should be, we can work with the moment instead of against it.
Complaining carries an unconscious negative charge; it adds more negativity to a perceived negative situation.
Accepting empowers us to bring about conscious change inside ourselves. Acceptance looks passive on the outside, but it’s a creative state because we’re bringing the subtle energy vibration of peace (something new) to the situation.
Whenever you’re tempted to complain about something, remind yourself that you can use this experience as a stepping stone to wherever you want to go next. The things you instantly deem dreadful are opportunities to practice forgiveness, acceptance, patience, trust, and a new perspective.
Acceptance Is Freedom to Do Something Different
For now, I am here doing this thing. If I accept it, I am freed to live my present-moment reality in a new way.
Making a friend of the present moment allows us to experience life in a new way. That might mean seeing the present in a new light, with a new perspective, and with renewed trust that all is as it needs to be, for now. If it’s not what it needs to be, then the potential is there for what does need to be.
In that moment of not wishing for what is not, there is peace. In that awakened moment where we accept what is, we deliver new energy to our life situation.
Acceptance aligns us with a creative power that sets in motion wholly new ways of experiencing the world.
We may not enjoy what we need to do or experience right now, but we can accept it, knowing that it won’t last forever. Accepting something definitely doesn’t mean we succumb to it, but that we surrender our need to change the past that led to it in the first place. From there, lasting and meaningful change is likely.
This thought helps me accept what I don’t like and can’t change (for now): I couldn’t possibly be experiencing anything that I’m not supposed to be experiencing. To think otherwise is futile.
You don’t need to believe that “everything happens for a reason,” necessarily; what I’m suggesting is that you contemplate that there is no other way that life should be playing out for you than the way it is right now. Life doesn’t always need to be this way (and it most likely won’t be); it just is at it is, for now.
Tend to Your State of Consciousness
Only I can live my life experience, according to my state of consciousness.
If you can’t enjoy something, and you just can’t bring yourself to accept what’s happening or what you’re doing, pause. Stop what you’re doing and take care of your state of consciousness: it’s the only thing you can really take responsibility for, and it depicts everything.
The universe is living, breathing, and conscious through you. You’re not really separate from life, because you are an expression of that which is alive, conscious. If you can’t imagine how you could ever accept something, consider your most pertinent task to be this: tending to your state of consciousness.
Awareness, presence, being with what is without judging it or attaching to it—these are vehicles for consciousness to flow into the world. When you’re in a state of alert awareness, serenely awake to life as it is without wishing or striving or struggling, that quiet stillness that enters is consciousness.
You’re here to understand yourself from a unique viewpoint; accepting what is empowers you to embrace the unknown without unraveling it. That non-striving, that sense of being okay, frees you from the draining burden of over-analyzing every perceived problem. From that place, solutions are easier to come by.
Healing comes when we say to ourselves, our life situation, our surroundings, someone’s opinion that we don’t agree with, or anything else we look at and don’t like: “We can work through this together and come out the other side, totally new. Just know that I accept you right now.”
- What’s one thing/situation that you’ve been having a hard time accepting?
- Can you think of how your acceptance of something in the past led to empowered change inside yourself, and ultimately in how you lived your life?
Please share your thoughts, lessons in forgiveness and peace, personal practices that help you see differently, and any inspiring stories of acceptance with me in the comments.
Share this affirmation with someone who deserves peace of mind.
Complaining is an unconscious resistance to reality; accepting is the conscious choice to be with life right now, and to see where it goes.
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