Thanks for being here. Aim Happy is so much more than a website: it’s a consistent thought of hope.
I am consciously healing through writing, and this is what’s happening in response. This is a soft place for you to come back to for honest encouragement, cues for joy, heart-to-heart guidance, a little more light, or kinship with a fellow human who gets grief. I hardly know the whole story, but I’m learning that every time I struggle, I come out of it more compassionate, empowered, devoted, curious, and reverent for life.
I know what searing pain feels like, and I know how it feels to transcend suffering; healing is alchemy, and I want you to know that it’s possible and worthwhile.
The ultimate intention of Aim Happy is to honor the joy that can be found in healing.
I don’t know everything, but I know that the way I keep living, and loving, is going to be my greatest message.
Every single message you read here is written with love by me, Jen.
“Joy is a mystery because it can happen anywhere, anytime, even under the most unpromising circumstances, even in the midst of suffering, with tears in its eyes….” – Frederick Buechner
What Aim Happy Means to Me
To me, happiness is a human opportunity to fall back into alignment with the divine experience of joy. For me, that feels like a miracle when it happens, like I’m part of everything, already whole while I walk the world, grateful for the gift of life.
This concept of happiness extends far beyond a fleeting feeling, and it embraces the belief that joy means we’re closer to home, that peace is our ultimate resting place.
Happiness is something that requires our presence and devotion, but it can be pretty near impossible to “choose” happiness during the darker times. I’ve been there many times. I’ve learned that happiness is more than a one-time act; it is reverence for life and a resounding hope that there is a better way, whichever ways we’ve already been.
I’ve learned that I can intend to connect with joy even in despair. Especially then. (And by intend, I mean more than just desire: I mean desire plus deep will.) That intention has shaped my life for the last 6 years, and it has given me life. This is what “aiming” happy means to me, though I prefer to call it “aimhappying.”Joy is not a thing, it is in us. – Charles Wagner Click To Tweet
My writing is just as much a reminder for myself as it is for you—this is a healing process for me, and hopefully a healing space for many others.
I only hope that you read something here that feels as healing as it does to write.
Aim Happy was dreamed in 2014, born in 2015, and its mission to spread hope is itself inspired by a very sad time in my life.
It is often the most tragic times that open our eyes not only to the pain, but to the beauty that lies beyond it and even in it…
I experienced heartbreaking loss when my older brother committed suicide at the age of 25 (four years before this blog was born, in 2011). I’ve had my fair share of grief, pain, fear, sadness, regret, anger, self-doubt, love, forgiveness, compassion, wonder, miracles, and feelings and things far beyond words.
I thought this was the end, but it ended up being a new beginning.
What was endured during those dark times became the force that inspired growth and positive change in my life. Mark (my brother) is present in my writing, and in every waking moment of my day. He is the catalyst for my rebirth.
After losing my beloved father in the spring of 2016 due to lifelong health complications, my family and I are learning to rebuild together, once again.
Grief is messy, but it can be a healing path back to love.
May my writing embody the spirit of both my brother and my father, may my words honor their lives, and may this all be of service to you.
It may not be possible to feel happy every moment of every day. I do believe that we can consciously choose love, if we feel supported (by our practices, or by others) in doing so (and there are lots of ways to bring love to the forefront of our lives).
It’s all a practiced way of living in the world.
We can prioritize the positive thoughts, tend to the beauty in the world, cultivate calm in the chaos, trust the process, rediscover new reasons to be grateful, and focus on serving the people we live with. Service and contribution is key to keeping the light on in our hearts, and hope on the horizon. These are all practices, surely.
Healing isn’t all bubbles and sunshine. Crying and stomping our feet is sometimes part of the deal. Be kind to yourself. Remember that even the darkest clouds can’t stop the sun from shining.
I am so glad you’re here.
With deep gratitude and all my love,
DISCLAIMER: I’m not perfect… whatever that is. What you read here is a work in progress and it’s a reflection of a personal promise to embody the presence of joy, even especially when it’s hard. We walk a great journey here. Aim Happy is home to the lessons learned along the way.
Photo credit: Andrew James Photography.