When we attack, we cannot love. The intent of these relationship mantras is to lighten the drama and inspire more peaceful interactions. May these words serve you by helping you to prioritize love and happiness over anything else.
“Hold no grudges and practice forgiveness. This is the key to having peace in all your relationships.” – Wayne Dyer
This post is a continuation of these seven positive mantras for healthy relationships.
The relationship mantras shared here can help you become more conscious when interacting with others–whether they’re dear loved ones, perfect strangers, angry companions, or upset customers.
Repeat these mantras to yourself before you begin a conversation, silently in your head during an interaction, and anytime you need a reminder to choose love instead of anything else.
9 Relationship Mantras for Less Drama and More Peace
1. This is my choice and my chance.
I have a chance to make a choice about how I see the world and how I respond to it. I bring mindfulness to this situation, this communication, and this relationship. I choose presence over panic, grace over impatience, and beauty over negativity. I choose to see the light in another, no matter how forgotten it may be.
2. I see this person only in this moment.
I see them how they are right now. I let go of how they may have behaved in the past and how they might behave in the future. I let go of all negative memory that ties me to their past self. I let go of all preconceived ideas of what they might do. Again, may presence be my priority.
3. How I treat this person is a result of my decision, not their behavior.
This person may be difficult for me to handle right now, but I know that how I handle this situation mirrors my internal decisions. How I treat them says more about me than it does them.
4. I release the desire to control other people.
I know that I cannot control everything that happens to me or is said to me, but I can control my response. I am not responsible for this person’s behavior, attitude, or choice of words–only my own. I am not to be in control of who they are, so let me focus on what I can control.
5. I seek to understand before I judge.
Before I join in on the gossip or drama, I seek to understand what’s going on. There may be a story I cannot fully relate to or decipher; there may be something which I cannot now see. I use my judgement not as a tool for putting others down, but for lifting the energy higher.
I love and respect myself, therefore I value how I spend my time and energy.
6. I recognize the relationships that shrink my joy.
There are times I’m tempted to sacrifice my own happiness to make someone else happy. This is a needless cause for suffering. I proactively make the decision not to conform to the situation.
It’s important to still want to bring joy to other people, yet not at the expense of my own joy–what I do for others must be done out of joy, and not out of fear (of rejection, conflict, guilt, or anything else).
I willingly only participate in relationships and agreements which enhance the happiness of both parties.
7. I do not need to limit my light.
I don’t need to be anyone other than myself in order to be trusted, accepted, or loved. I don’t need to give up who I am in order to impress. I do not need to restrain my magnificence in order to be “normal.” This world needs the light of my authentic self, otherwise it would not be here exactly as it is–I would not be here exactly as I am.
8. I can walk away peacefully.
I can close a chapter without slamming down the book.
Sometimes paths merge for a reason, and sometimes they branch off in different directions. I understand that, no matter how loving or open I may be, others can only meet me as deeply as they’ve met themselves. No matter how hard or painful, I can still bless the person and move on my own way.
9. This is an opportunity to know myself better.
What can I learn from this interaction? What does this relationship reveal in me? Will I have to shrink to make this work, or can I grow from this situation?
Can I let go of the need to control this person, and appreciate them for who they are? What can I be grateful for here?
Have I been asking myself what I can get from this relationship, or have I been asking what I can give to this relationship?
You may also enjoy these 10 mantras for peace.
- Which of these relationship mantras do you feel like you need to practice today?
- What helps you to keep the peace, especially when it’s tempting to keep the drama going?
Please share your own thoughts, lessons, and relevant experiences with me in the comments.
Share these relationship mantras with someone who could use a loving reminder to keep the peace.
Relationships aren’t for getting things; they’re for giving things.
Free watercolor flower by Angie Makes; lettering by Aim Happy.