As of late, a few messages in particular are begging to be acknowledged. If a little encouragement and validation is exactly what you need today, I invite you to consider a few morsels of wisdom that have been popping up for me (I just have a feeling they’ll resonate with you, too). I hope these 9 life truths prompt you to access a deeper connection with the healing that needs to happen.
“Anything that annoys you is for teaching you patience. Anyone who abandons you is for teaching you how to stand up on your own two feet. Anything that angers you is for teaching you forgiveness and compassion. Anything that has power over you is for teaching you how to take your power back. Anything you hate is for teaching you unconditional love. Anything you fear is for teaching you courage to overcome your fear. Anything you can’t control is for teaching you how to let go and trust the universe.” — Jackson Kiddard
There are certain life truths that are speaking a little more loudly than others these days. Myself, I’ve been struggling with some of the key ingredients of happiness, but I also deeply know that the truth and freedom I seek is tucked neatly into the folds of every challenge. There’s not one experience that doesn’t offer its own gifts; even “darkness has its teachings.”
If you’re struggling in your relationships, in your work, with your emotional health or with a big change, or if there’s anything inside of you that needs to be healed, one (or maybe more) of these life truths might be the messenger of hope that you need to hear today.
9 Life Truths That Have Me Looking Within and Shaking My Head YES Right Now
1. Relationships thrive with honest communication, and sink without it.
If we don’t communicate in the relationships we keep, those connections will likely feel strained, distant, or both. The honest communication of your desires, intentions, frustrations, and feelings in general is what’s going to heal the relationship, keep it intact, or at the very least keep it honest.
If something is not authentic, is it real? If love is the truest experience we know, the one that cuts through to our core, then the realest question I can think of asking is: How can we bring more love to the relationship?
We can’t expect to be seen or heard by others if we don’t show up with our own truths. We can’t expect a relationship to feel loving if we have forgotten to be a bringer of love.
2. The most peircing lessons often come from the hardest experiences.
When I get sucked into those dark spots of being a human, I realize—from within that dark space—that I don’t want my mind to use me; I want to use my mind for the highest good of all, because that’s the way out.
When I lose my way, am confused about what I’m supposed to be doing with my life, forget why I started, or forget how to love myself, this is where a deeper devotion is born: I want to make myself anew. I want to find myself over and over again, which also requires that I lose my sense of self from time to time.
When the workings of the world make no sense, another voice whispers (sometimes it takes a while before I can hear it): You can be in the world, but not of it.
Even a moment of heartbreaking loss is a herald for the greatest of all the life truths: Nothing that is real can be lost.When it hurts—observe. Life is trying to teach you something. — Anita Krizzan Click To Tweet
3. None of us can claim to be General Manager of the Universe, or Planet Earth.
On the outside, it seems that life is mainly uncontrollable with a sprinkling of consistency, dipped in rare reliability. Thankfully, what happens outside is not always up to us. We’re made of stars and earth, and we don’t have to control either but we do have the benefit of being powerful enough to practice controlling our own orbit, our own nature.
What we fight and resist is truly a lesson in letting go of resistance, of dissolving the fight mentality that only extends the turmoil.
We can certainly practice what it feels like to give up the inner turmoil that’s festering due to the deep-seated desire to have everything happen according to our wishes. Then, we can see how life responds, or doesn’t respond, and inwardly honor an unknown plan or power or nature that doesn’t require our constant input. A universal intelligence does exist, after all: It’s called Life.
4. Productivity doesn’t make us better than others.
Sure, it’s a positive practice to improve and to nourish one’s own sense of self. The problem that I’ve found with productivity is that it’s often used as a tool of improving ourselves in comparison to others. We might try to get more done so that others might see us in a brighter light, but life isn’t about being better than anyone else and it’s definitely not about pleasing everyone else.
Comparison is soul-crushing and only validates perhaps the biggest illusion of all: We are separate.
The deeper life truth that we’re scratching at, I think, is that we don’t need to get everything done in order to feel complete inside. We need to feel complete inside to make the work we do fulfilling in the first place.
There’s a certain authenticity that’s allowed to come forth when we stop living to “be better” and start living to enjoy ourselves and each other. We get to just live life for the pure potential that exists, for the pure joy of being alive, and without any strings attached to “this outcome” or “that expectation.”Climb the mountain so you can see the world, not so the world can see you. — David McCullough Jr Click To Tweet
5. How we feel is a direct indicator of the truth.
Our feelings are the best truth-tellers of all time. What we feel is a signal and a suggestion of what’s really going on inside, which is affecting how we both interpret and ingest what’s going on outside. “Feel your feelings” is a condensed, bite-sized reminder that if we ignore, push aside, or disregard what’s going on inside ourselves, we cannot fully embrace what’s possible for us.
What is possible when we honor the emotional currents that are constantly working their way through our system? We can let them work their way through our system. We can let them come and go without fighting, without being knocked down by every bout of insecurity, frustration, or rage. We can see the feelings for what they are, recognizing that they’re not us, but that we’re the ones looking at them.
This kind of freedom can only be known by experiencing it.Every feeling we ever experience is a gateway to the truth, if we pay attention long enough. Click To Tweet
6. No one is worthy of endless blame or shame.
No one is worthy of endless blame or shame… not even you.
As easy as that is to read in writing, it’s a tough truth to really consume at times, a tricky path that I forget how to navigate. That’s when the simple practice of witnessing the feelings (without becoming them), as mentioned above, becomes acutely essential to remembering.
Worthiness cannot be uprooted by the world; it was written in our soul long before we believed it could be erased.
This is one of those life truths that rings a bell in the heart, because it’s not something outrageous; it’s something we’ve known all along, something we remember.Worth isn't something we earn. It's something we are. Click To Tweet
7. More often than not, we’re not ready for the big things.
As life evolves, and we’re ushered into new phases of our own lives, we can fight against the tides or we can learn to match our rhythm with the rhythm of nature. We can go with the flow, so to speak, embracing what comes—come what may—to the best of our ability.
We don’t have to be ready for a dramatic shift for it to happen; surely, life shows up with full force on a moment-to-moment basis. Can we show up? More accurately: How can we show up? How can we rise out of our comfort zones, limiting beliefs, and self-depreciating habits in response to what this moment brings?
Stepping full force into a new phase of life when we’re not ready for it will, naturally, feel unnatural, especially if we’re not used to trying that approach. Just activating the belief that it’s possible for us, though, is a powerful step forward.
8. Approval of others is hard-won when we don’t approve of ourselves.
Approving of our own selves actually gets us out of our own narrowed beliefs and fears. Showing up for ourselves with growing compassion expands our capacity for compassion with others. Self-acceptance, like all worthwhile practices, brings us closer to one another, not further away.
It’s undoubtedly difficult, perhaps downright impossible, to feel completely accepted, respected, and free with other people without feeling wholly, completely cherished on our own, as we are, first.
If there is discord in your relationships, there is disharmony within to which you’re being summoned. In every exchange of energy with others, we’re invited to more fully understand and explore the energy we are giving.Your relationship with yourself is, without question, the bedrock of every relationship. Click To Tweet
9. Nourishing your soul doesn’t require an apology.
Healing happens in seasons. I’ve found that what must happen can’t be rushed or forced to fit a schedule, though schedules can be helpful, for sanity. The healing we might think we need might not be the healing we receive, but punishing ourselves for not getting the nourishment we had planned for is just the signal we need: what we really need is to Be Nourishment for ourselves.
This all means that we need to say “No, thank you” at times, even when we thought we should be saying “Yes, of course.” We need to drop every “should” for the time being. We need to skip out on something fun in order to take care of ourselves, and other times we need to stop working so that we can remember what it means to play. We need a routine, and we need to step outside our routines for spontaneous living.
Everything has its season. No season apologizes to the one that’s coming after it for taking its turn. Take your time, and take your turn, for this too shall turn into something else when it’s time.
Which of these life truths has you shaking your head YES right now? Which do you feel most drawn to?
Please share your thoughts, life truths you’d add to this collection, and any enlightening or eye-opening stories with me in the comments.
Share the truth with the ones you love; share this post and spread the love.
Practice controlling your own orbit. Practice witnessing your own nature without adding more thoughts on top of what you see. Just watch, just make space to be seen and heard, and you won’t have to think so much about how to control anything.