Happiness is more of a direction than a zip code or the height of an achievement. With that in mind, I penned these self-care affirmations to help the both of us walk in the direction that feels good in our hearts, rather than get stuck on what’s “not perfect” or hasn’t yet met the standards we set for ourselves. I’ve found that if I’m headed in the right direction, my past and my future alike benefit from my presence.
“I stopped waiting for the world to give me what I wanted; I started giving it to myself.” ― Byron Katie
Our daily self-care activities, however brief they may be, carry us through our lives so that we don’t have to feel like we’re treading water and fighting the current.
Something as simple as setting an alarm on your phone to take three deep breaths at scheduled intervals throughout your workday could be the key to your replenishment, or, more likely, part of the puzzle that puts you “back together.” It’s usually a combination of solutions that best serves us.
When it comes to taking care of ourselves, let’s not make things more complicated than they are. I’ll rephrase: It’s usually a combination of simple solutions that best serves us. The words we speak to ourselves during moments of frustration, for example, are either powerful activators or inhibitors of our capacity to live how we want to live. Simple = powerful. (Self-care affirmations, anyone?)
Yes, it’s exhausting to serve from an empty vessel—though it’s probably possible, it always feels impossible to me, and that’s the real difference-maker: how I feel.
When I feel energized, excited to be here, well-rested and ready to do whatever I’m doing from that loving, lighthearted place, I end up making a real difference. My internal state of being influences my external experiences, and if undesirable external experiences pop up, they’re less likely to wear me out.
When we feel good while we’re doing whatever we’re doing, we end up doing what we’re doing with greater ease (and we won’t lose all of our energy doing it). For me, it’s like the skies open up. It’s funny how the practice that seems the most trivial can result in a change of head and heart.Radical self-care so often begins with a slight shift in perspective. Click To Tweet
It’s easy to think that there’s no time to take care of ourselves, no room for growth, no space for peace and quiet in our head. The perspective shift, in this case, has to do with honoring the brief moments of respite during the day. Ten seconds is enough time to take a huge inhale and exhale, and that could very well be what we need to move in a more loving direction.
Since my definition of happiness reflects the path I’m walking, and not necessarily the rest stop itself, these self-care affirmations honor the moments along the way that contribute to the journey. They can help you refuel and make a real difference without losing all of your pizazz in the process. Use and reuse as often as you’d like—maybe, daily.
5 Empowering and Uplifting Self-Care Affirmations
1. I treat myself with compassion.
When I’m in pain, I intend to treat myself with compassion, not more pain. I am a spiritual being walking a human path; that sometimes calls for struggle, and in these times an open heart. I honor myself for witnessing my fears and falls without identifying with them. I honor the light I keep and view myself with a little more love instead.
2. I believe in who I am.
I am willing to take a deeper breath right now. I am willing to inhale who I am and exhale who I’m not. I believe that I can feel totally different than how I’ve felt before, and I am willing to believe in who I can be. I am journeying towards the fullest expression of my truth; it is a worthwhile road to be on.True self-care has a quality of reverence for the journey of being alive; it aims not to make everything perfect, but to deepen one's love along the way. Click To Tweet
3. I am lightening my load.
As I walk in the direction of real happiness and inner freedom, I cast aside unwanted layers of illusion and pain. My suffering has been necessary for growth and now I am letting go of what no longer serves the evolution of my soul. Each step is a peace treaty.
4. I cherish the time I take to refill.
Rest, silence, and conscious breaths are normal parts of my everyday life. I regularly make space for what refuels my enthusiasm for being alive. Even if I only have ten seconds to replenish my existence, I welcome that life-giving moment and use it to feed my intentions.Taking care of yourself is one of the best ways to take care of your relationships with others. Click To Tweet
5. I take care of the world when I take care of myself.
I work on others by working through myself. I help others when I help myself. As I show up more fully in my own loving presence, I shine that light into the world around me. The light I sow is a reflection of what’s possible. The love I give to myself is a reflection of my connection to everything else.
What’s one way you can take care of yourself today?
Please share your favorite self-care affirmations, practices that keep you feeling good and grounded, and any stories or insights with me in the comments.
Be a shining light for someone who could use some; send a friend these self-care affirmations and compare notes on what sentiments most resonate with you.
A soul is best nourished with deep connections. If you’re craving new self-care solutions, start a conversation about it with a trusted ally; they might share something that inspires you to test out a different direction. It’s all about direction.