It’s easy to miss some of the unhealthy practices we employ every day. In every single case, awareness is the first step toward releasing the bad habits that are weighing on our hearts, and living a good life that we really love.
“The secret to permanently breaking any bad habit is to love something greater than the habit.” – Bryant McGill
If you read the first post about releasing what’s holding us, you’ll remember that freedom can be found by letting go of these four patterns:
- Pretending like you’re always okay (and that you never need help).
- Letting a painful past dictate the present.
- Resisting change and growth.
- Worrying without acting.
Here are four more bad habits that are worth setting free, for the sake of your happiness.
4 More Bad Habits to Set Free So You Can Be Free
5. Saying “yes” to everything.
Question your yeses. Sometimes we find ourselves instinctively wanting to say yes, so we do. Oftentimes and after the fact, it sinks in that our instinctive response is causing us more stress than it’s worth. Trust me, I know all about this one.
Sometimes a little stress spurs growth, but too much stress just isn’t worth it. Don’t say yes to anything that brings more stress without the promise of growth.You can do anything, but you can't do everything. – David Allen Click To Tweet
Pause, and question your tendency to say yes on the spot. Stop and think first. Say maybe (or say no) at first, until you’ve had enough time to think over all aspects of your answer. Make a conscious decision to simplify by committing to fewer obligations.
Prioritize what’s really important, and choose it. Leave the busywork, that stuff that fills your day but doesn’t add significant meaning to your life, or at least give up a portion of it.
For the love of whatever you love, lighten your load.
6. Zoning in on your weaknesses.
It’s healthy to know your weaknesses, but you don’t need to amplify them by dwelling on them and giving them more weight than they’re worth. Stop blaming your weaknesses and start thanking your strengths.Don't let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do. – John Wooden Click To Tweet
Identify your signature strengths and focus on employing them in your daily life. By practicing your strengths, you’ll start to flow and enjoy more in work, at home, and in every realm of your life. Focus on and amplify what you enjoy doing, what comes naturally, and what serves the world around you.
7. Thinking that offering forgiveness means you’re wrong or weak.
Forgiveness is the best gift you could give yourself. Yes, forgiveness sets others free in your mind, but its power lies in its ability to set your mind free. Forgiving another doesn’t equate to anyone being right or wrong, strong or weak, overpowering or vulnerable.
To forgive is to choose peace and happiness above all else. It’s a sign that you’d rather be at peace and loving your own life than living in someone else’s world.Click To Tweet
8. Assuming that happiness will come only when we attain certain goals.
Happy people aren’t lucky—blessed, maybe, but not lucky. Happy people are blessed because they continue to commit to their happiness regardless of what’s going on around them. They enjoy happiness because they make consistent happy efforts.
Happiness is a practice. It’s a journey, a way of life, an action that requires our devoted energy, and a skill that we can strengthen. Happy people practice happiness every day, regardless of goals, achievements, special events, or other people.
If we place our capacity for joy anywhere other than in our own hands, head, and heart, we’ll miss a lot of joy.
Of course, setting goals is an excellent practice that supports our growth and evolution, but don’t wait for happiness to arrive some day in the future. If you do that, happiness will always be just out of reach.
Start creating happiness right here and now, and set goals from that happy space.
- Which bad habits are you working on setting free?
- Which positive habits are you practicing today?
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When you let go of something, space opens up for something new.