Letting go does not mean giving up. Letting go of the bad habits that are sabotaging our happiness and stealing our peace is brilliant, courageous, liberating, and ultimately of service to ourselves and everyone we meet.
“Be patient. Relax and trust. Let go. Then, let go some more.” – Melody Beattie
If you’re doing any of the following four things, know that it’s okay! We’ve all been there before (that’s why I’m writing about it — I’ve been there), and we’ll all continue to be there on occasion. This is about recognizing what’s leading us away from genuine happiness so we can start walking towards happiness again.
Ask yourself if these bad habits are going unchecked. Be honest with your answer. Rather than judging yourself for it, just be open to it. Be aware of it, for only by facing it can you consciously choose to walk a different path. Embrace it, for only through acceptance can you begin to release any lingering resistance. Learn from it, for you are on an ever-evolving path, and happiness most definitely is the journey (not the destination).
Believe that you have the power to lift yourself out of any hole you find yourself in.
4 Bad Habits to Recognize and Release (as Often as Needed)
1. Pretending like you’re always okay (and that you never need help).
There’s no shame in feeling like your world is crumbling. That feeling comes alive for all of us from time to time. The important thing to remember is that you will be okay in the end. You will. In fact, everything will be okay. In the meantime, it’s healthier to face the truth than act like you’re immune to certain feelings. It’s okay to unravel for a little while.
If you feel exhausted, doubtful, hurt, or stressed, acknowledge it. If you need to cry, then do it. Feel it. Let it pulse. Simply being aware of these feelings means you’re capable of transforming them into something else.
If you need help during this period of unraveling, be brave enough to ask for it. Being strong doesn’t mean being invincible (that’s unrealistic). Strength is realizing what’s best, right, or necessary, and then choosing it.
2. Letting a painful past dictate the present.
Pain allows us to better know pleasure. Mistakes teach us wisdom. Sadness makes happiness shine brighter. Everything that doesn’t bring you joy about the past certainly teaches you something today. Vow to see each up and down as a learning opportunity, and the way you see everything will change.
Affirm to live for today. Let go of the old endings so you can make room for new beginnings, because everything comes full circle. When we stop looking behind us, our eyes will open to the beauty in front of us. Start sending out good energy today and you will benefit twice — once today, and once tomorrow.
3. Resisting change and growth.
We’ve heard that growth begins at the end of our comfort zone. It’s true that growth doesn’t always feel good, but it’s necessary for a good and meaningful life. Try to balance comfort and change, feeling good and growing. Remember that being uncomfortable is a sign you’re swimming in uncharted territory, which is usually where dreams comes to life.
Be willing to walk down the unfamiliar path, trust life a little bit more, meet someone new, and contemplate doing things differently. Keep your mind open, like a child, to the infinite possibilities floating around you.
4. Worrying without acting.
Our thoughts have a huge impact on the way our reality unfolds. Worrying is like wishing for what we don’t want, and it’s sending that exact message out into the universe: “I’d like more of this, please.” Instead of keeping busy worrying (which equates to doing nothing for your joy and progress), act upon any positive intentions of yours. Positive anything is better than negative nothing.
Think about something that would move you forward in any way. What brings you joy? What relaxes you? What fills you up, makes time stop, connects you with curiosity, and makes it easier to smile? Tie your action to a meaning and go do it. Better to be exhausted from meaningful effort than frozen by doubtful predictions.
- When you’re stuck in repeated bad habits and negative thought patterns, how do you get unstuck?
- What positive actions (big and small, and tiny) help get you out of a rut?
- Are you willing to ask for help?
- Can you prioritize the present moment a little bit more?
Please share your thoughts, lessons, any bad habits you’re working on or have overcome, and any relevant experiences with me in the comments.
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Stay grateful for the journey.