Of course, we don’t love what we’re healing from, but the healing process itself offers a smorgasbord of serendipities that include grace, mercy, joy, companionship, unconditional love, and authenticity. There’s something worth stumbling upon here. Here’s what I’m doing to heal consciously, with as much of those forgiving qualities as possible.
“We are always given the very wounds that we are eventually meant to teach others to heal.” — Teal Swan
So, what is your wound? What needs to be healed? That sets you apart. And it brings you together.
The healing process will challenge your identity and it might even strip it away entirely so you can rebuild a new one, one that’s more closely associated with who you felt yourself to be but never had the courage to live.
For instance, the question isn’t really How can I go back to how life was before this wound was inflicted? but it’s actually more like How can I now step into my next level of growth?
When you’re stuck with healing your wounds, you’re actually in the perfect position to be free. You’re in the right spot for a kind of growth that wasn’t possible in this way before.More often than not (and maybe every single time) the healing process entails growth through helping others to heal. Click To Tweet
Teal Swan, the spiritual teacher who I referenced in the quote above, said the following in one of her lectures, and it was gold to me: “You will get to a point in your life where the only way to progress with your own capacity to do something is to teach it. That is the next level of learning.”
That statement put a big dent in the concept that unless you are completely healed you cannot help heal others. That’s just not true. I learn that almost every day now with what I do here, writing to you. I am not completely healed, but what makes the difference is that I speak from the healing, not the open wounds.
As my journey unfolds, I document it in such a way so that it can be applied to many other situations. The essence of one person’s lesson isn’t restricted to their individual life; it’s universal in its teachings.
Since I’ve been thinking about all the ways I’ve grown and continue to grow and heal and enter the next level of my own learning, here are a bunch of things I only started doing because I had wounds that needed healing.
17 Things I Started Doing So That I Could Actively Participate in the Healing Process
1. Writing on a daily basis. (Writing has always been an ingrained love of mine, but I had gotten away from it for years. It is a self-soothing process.)
2. Sharing my healing journey with others through doing what I love: writing.
3. Removing myself from a career that was not nourishing me.
4. Surrounding myself with teachers, books, and other learning materials that cover topics such as self-help, personal development, spirituality, philosophy, happiness, high performance, mindfulness, health, and well-being.
5. Contemplating the possibility that there’s no concrete right or wrong, black or white, this or that, only a series of ever-shifting possibilities.This wound you carry is an opening into a new way of being alive. Click To Tweet
6. Looking directly at my perceived faults, shortcomings, mistakes, painful memories, and ugly thought patterns instead of ignoring the shadowy parts of my experience.
7. Trying to do the above with a lot more loving compassion than I ever granted myself before.
8. Visualizing myself in the next level of healing/success/learning before I get there.
9. Focusing on living my own life to the fullest instead of copying what I might think looks better somewhere else.
10. Removing drama from my life because it eats up too much of the energy I need to focus on my own dreams.“Fear knocked at the door. Love answered and no one was there.” @DrWayneWDyer Click To Tweet
11. Taking notes on what I’m grateful for or what beauty I find in the world.
12. Saying “I love you” to my family on a regular basis.
13. Meditating as a way of calming my negative thinking and anxious tendencies, but also to commune with the universe on a deeper level and connect with my brother and father.
14. Experimenting with various stress-relief methods, such as meditation, breathing exercises, yoga, herbal supplements, coloring, and, in a way, everything else on this list.
15. Repeating uplifting affirmations as a way of retraining my brain.“I am healing” has been one of the most enlightening responses to my own pleas for peace. Click To Tweet
16. Looking inside of myself if I wish things looked different on the outside.
17. Writing poems. The first morning I woke up knowing my brother was gone, I was overwhelmed with the need to write a poem, something I hadn’t wanted to do in a very long time. (This was the spark that started this writing journey that I’m on, and I still feel my brother in every poem. And you know what? I just realized that.)
If you want to share what you’re healing or how you’re healing with me, I’d love to read a little bit about your story. Please feel free to leave a comment; I’m all about healing together.
Care about someone who is in the beginning or somewhere in the middle of their healing journey? Share this letter with them to keep the hope and heart sustained.
The healing process doesn’t come with a finish line. You don’t walk to it; you just walk it. It’s in each step. Honor each step.