The habits of happy people are accessible to us all, because happiness is a practice. The destination we seek is the journey itself, and so our joy dwells in the things we do every single day.
“Happiness does not depend on what happens outside of you but on what happens inside of you; it is measured by the spirit with which you meet the problems of life.” – Harold B. Lee
This post is Part 4 of a series highlighting the habits of happy people. If you’re interested in prioritizing happiness in your life, read these posts:
- Part 1 talks about mindfulness, gratitude, and responsibility.
- Part 2 talks about honesty and kindness, forgiveness, and meaning.
- Part 3 talks about new beginnings, energy levels, goals, and bringing the joy.
Keep the good feelings going with five more methods for living a happy life.
5 More Habits of Happy People
1. They believe something good is in the works.
Optimism is not unrealistic, it’s just a really great way to live your life. There’s not much sense in going through life always looking for the bad. I’ve found little use in doing so, anyway.
When we’re thoroughly committed to believing in the goodness of the world, that’s what we see. When we believe something good is coming our way, we’re apt to see it when it comes. In doing so, feelings of disappointment and regret still happen but are less likely to stick around, because we believe every path has potential for joy.
When things get tough, keep your faith in the guides you can’t always see. Trust the process of life that’s working for the highest good of all, even though we can’t always see it. Keep your willingness to choose to see peace instead of this.
2. They practice their comebacks.
Happy people experience negative emotions, too. None of us are immune to negativity, but what each of us can do is practice our comebacks.
The fear that fuels negativity can show up as anger, impatience, hopelessness, greed, etc. Though fear’s messengers may knock us down from time to time, what matters is that we get back up again.
Our comeback is a good measure of our commitment to prioritizing happiness.
3. They prioritize stress-relief.
Make space in your life for you. There’s beauty in simply being, and not doing. We need to relax, and that could mean something totally different for you than it does for me. Whatever speaks peace to you, make sure you communicate with it on a consistent basis.
4. They focus on what they can change and let the rest go.
Brooding over our burdens will never lead to a happy life.
We are constantly being taught the lesson of acceptance. We are urged to recognize that perhaps we don’t know everything, and that it’s okay that we don’t. Sometimes the hardest challenges in life lead to the greatest discoveries, yet we struggle in learning (accepting) this lesson.
Everyone experiences the “could’ve, should’ve, would’ve” thoughts. Truth be told, all we can really do is our best at that point in time, with the tools, knowledge, and perspective we have in that moment.
One of the most profound habits of happy people is that of shifting perspectives. It’s our willingness to see mistakes as lessons that eases the pain of learning the lesson. By practicing acceptance in difficult and uncomfortable situations we strengthen our faith in love, and release our resistance to peace here, and happiness now.
Happy people do their best to embrace the ups and downs, because there isn’t much growth in resistance.
If you can’t change something on the outside, ask how you could change the inside.
5. They give without expecting anything in return.
It’s a funny thing, that the only way to keep happiness is to give it away. Giving has a boomerang effect so that when we send joy to others, we feel joyful. When we let our light shine on another, we can see the light again. The kindness we extend to the people around us has the capacity to return to us in miraculous ways.
We cannot keep love for ourselves (for it’s not ours to keep), yet we become the love we have given and received.
When we let go of conditions, we allow the light to flood in. Love has no limits, and since joy is a natural extension of love, we can know that when we release it out into the world (again, without conditions), it will extend of itself and shine its light upon all involved in its release (and that includes you).
- Which of these (or any other) happy habits would you like to practice on a more consistent basis?
- Is there something you know you’d like to let go of, that could contribute to your peace?
- Do you have any favorite stress-relieving practices that keep you calm, and looking forward to the future?
Please share your thoughts, practices that support your connection to joy, lessons learned in unconditional giving, and any stories of a comeback with me in the comments.
Share this post with someone you care about.
Care about yourself, and you’ll naturally want to share that love with others.