Not long ago, entrepreneur Marie Forleo and Dr. Brené Brown engaged in a pertinent discussion that stands as a call to us all: Speak your mind but do it with heart. In today’s chaotic environment, these Brené Brown quotes formulate a stark reminder that we must be brave enough to stay connected to ourselves and others while we stand up for what’s right.
“You only are free when you realize you belong no place — you belong every place — no place at all. The price is high. The reward is great.” — Maya Angelou, in an interview with Bill Moyers, 1973
I love watching MarieTV, which is Marie Forleo’s online platform for sharing digestable wisdom and hosting interviews with fellow thought leaders. Marie is an impressive woman and a succcessful entrepreneur who believes in giving back. This is why she recently sat down to interview beloved researcher Dr. Brené Brown concerning the contributions we’re all capable of making in the world today—even and especially right in the middle of chaos and confusion.
Brené is another impressive individual, and I’ve shared some of her concentrated nuggets of wisdom in the past. The Brené Brown quotes I’m sharing here today are all from this one interview with Marie, which you can watch here (and I highly, highly recommend that you do watch).
The interview starts off with the opening quote of Brené’s newest book, which is the quote from Maya Angelou that I used to open this post. Belonging is a key theme to the book and this interview, because who we are in the world—and how we treat others—stems from how (clear, courageous, and connected) we are with ourselves.
This conversation is incredibly important, because it dives deep into how we can remain socially conscious and hold the space for difficult conversations without losing ourselves or shaming others. Marie prompts Brené to unearth the process of dehumanization and rehumanization, which is inspired by her latest book entitled Braving The Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging & The Courage To Stand Alone.
If the fear of criticism keeps you silent on important issues, this is a must-watch interview. If you know it’s possible to engage in respectful conversations, but you’re not seeing enough of it in the world, take care your side of the street and honor the energy that YOU bring and put out into the world.
We are here, living together, and we need to get closer to each other, not cut ourselves off from the real opportunities to create a more loving reality.
I hope you enjoy the following Brené Brown quotes, but know that they’re just a sliver of genius from this impassioned interview with Marie.
15 Brené Brown Quotes about “Braving the Wildnerness”
1. “Don’t walk through the world looking for evidence that you don’t belong, because you will always find it. Don’t walk through the world looking for evidence that you’re not enough, because you will always find it. Our worth and our belonging are not negotiated with other people. We carry those inside of our hearts.” — Brené Brown
2. “I know who I am; I’m clear about that, and I’m not going to negotiate that with you… I may fit in for you, but I no longer belong to myself, and that is a betrayal I’m not willing to do that anymore.” — Brené Brown
3. “If you need me to be someone different than who I am, it’s not gonna be successful.” — Brené Brown
4. “True belonging is a spiritual practice, and it’s about the ability to find sacredness in both being a part of something but also the courage to stand alone.” — Brené Brown“You belong everywhere and nowhere, and that is liberation.” @BreneBrown Click To Tweet
6. “I’m not going to let my imperfection move me away from the conversation because it’s too important.” — Brené Brown
7. “Opting out of speaking out because we may get criticized (to me) is the definition of privilege.” — Brené Brown
8. “Dehumanization is not a social justice tool. It is emotional offloading, it is gratuitous, it is self-indulgent; it is a way to offload our anger, our fear, and our rage, but it has nothing to do with social justice.” — Brené Brown
9. “When we use dehumanizing language, it says much more about us than the people that we’re railing against, and… it chips away at our soul.” — Brené Brown
10. “Shame never drives positive behavior. What shame drives is rage, anger, rationalization, and blame.” — Brené Brown“When you shame people, it hurts you.” @BreneBrown Click To Tweet
12. “Shame begets shame in the same way that violence begets violence. It’s not the answer.” — Brené Brown
13. “If the only two tools that you have in your tool bag are shame or coddle, that’s a sorry-ass tool bag.” — Brené Brown
14. “It really is going to take a million acts of kindness and consciousness to change this.” — Brené Brown
15. “At the end of the day, at the end of the week, at the end of my life I want to be able to say that I contributed more than I criticized.” — Brené Brown
Please share your thoughts, favorite Brené Brown quotes from this interview, how you stay calm and centered in heated discussions, and any helpful advice or hopeful stories with me in the comments.
Choose courage over comfort today; share the sentiments of B.R.A.V.I.N.G. with someone you respect.
If you don’t feel good about the world or how you’re moving through the world, ask yourself, “How can I brave the wilderness? How can I stay true to who I am while I contribute?”