Letting go of those things that weigh you down is a great act of self-love and self-respect; it means you’re placing more power in the future than you do the past. Let’s celebrate where we are and where we’re going, and let’s make more space for happiness to enter our lives along the way.
“By letting it go, it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try the world is beyond winning.” – Lao Tzu
This post is a followup of last week’s post about 5 things worth letting go, which covered:
- What could have, should have happened.
- Pretending to be okay when you’re not.
- Avoiding or cursing the truth.
Continuing on with this theme of letting heavy things go in order to let good things in, here are five more things I believe aren’t worth their weight.
5 More Things Worth Letting Go
1. Concentrating on the unchangeable.
Not everything in life is meant to be modified. Of course, we should never give up on what makes us come alive, but to keep worrying about changing the unchangeable will only deplete our energy and drain our happiness.
As Eckhart Tolle says, “Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on.”
When we realize that we’ve been placing our faith in changing what can’t be changed, we must remember that there’s strength in the ability to start over. If we can’t change what we don’t like, we still have the ability to change the way we think about it.
2. Focusing on what’s wrong.
Ruminating on the wrongs in life without posing a solution is madness.
Stop focusing on how stressed you are, and remember how blessed you are. Focus your thoughts on what you desire and deserve instead of what you want to run away from. Build on your strengths instead of magnifying your weaknesses. Make a change because you love yourself, not because you’re ashamed of yourself.
What we find is largely determined by what we’re looking for. If we’re so busy rummaging in the dirt, we will fail to see the beauty of the whole garden. Sometimes, we need to take a step back so we can see the bigger picture–so we can see what’s right, and so we can see the light.
3. Comparing and competing.
Life is a journey, not a competition.
Blaming and shaming will never serve your peace and happiness. Stop blaming others for not living up to your standards, and stop blaming yourself for not living up to others’ standards. Comparing yourself to others is a great way to make yourself unhappy.
We often compare our beginning to someone else’s middle, and it only results in our own misery. We are each on our own schedule, and sometimes we’re blooming in different seasons–that’s okay. What’s right for someone else may not be right for you right now. You are enough and you are beautiful in a way that only you can be; that’s nature, and nature is pretty intelligent.
Learn to love seeing other people happy and succeeding, because their joy and success is proof that you, too, can experience that same level of joy and success… It’s called the law of abundance. We are all made of the same stuff, and the possibilities are available to us all.
4. Thinking any human being is going to be perfect.
Embrace all your little quirks and your your mistakes, because we all have them. Again, life is a journey. We’re all constantly evolving on this path called life, and one person’s idea of perfection is certainly not everyone’s.
Dare to be you. Stay true to who you are deep down and live your life from this core, knowing that however many layers you must shed and however much you may evolve, you are still you.
Don’t let anyone’s opinions or ideals hold you back from expressing yourself as creatively and authentically as you wish.
5. The idea that letting go of pain means banishing the love.
Letting go of a feeling does not mean letting go of the person associated with that feeling. We can practice letting go of the grief associated with the passing of a loved one, for example, but we don’t lose the love we share with them. That love does not die.
When it comes to any kind of relationship and it’s time to let go of its weight, you can still retain the love, whatever that means for your specific situation. Love is not a finite resource and it’s not something we can dole out as we please; it’s always here and it’s always everywhere. It is life. It cannot be banished or destroyed, perhaps only forgotten.
Always be reminded of Mahatma Gandhi’s famous words: “Where there is love, there is life.” And love never dies…
- Can you relate to any of these sentiments?
- What are you letting go of today, this week, this year?
- Are you willing to prioritize happiness over hurt and peace over pain?
Please share your thoughts, lessons, encouraging words, and experiences in the comments.
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As Deepak Chopra would say: “In the process of letting go you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself.”